Topping From The Bottom: Understanding and Addressing the Control Mechanisms of submissives

In this episode of the Dom Sub Devotion podcast, we dive deep into the intricate dynamics of 'topping from the bottom' in a 24/7 DS marriage. We explore how this concept, where the submissive tries to control the Dominant using her submission as the means of control, aligns with the submissive’s use of voice and expression of feelings within a power exchange relationship. We discuss the challenges of balancing submission and the need to speak up, the importance of emotional safety, and the inner emotional journeys both the dominant and the submissive experience in pursuit of authentic submission, where she feels safe enough to let go and not feel the need to control. Join us as we unpack the transformative potential of overcoming control patterns and building deeper trust and love in a committed DS relationship. ~~~~~~~~ Get Dawn's Manifesto: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman. Click here to download it now! https://www.infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman   Our newest course for submissive women is available NOW. Submissive Foundations teaches women how to embody submission from a healthy emotional inner strength. Click the link to learn more! https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations   ~~~~~   Social Links:   Instagram: https://instagram.com/_infinitedevotion   YouTube: https://instagram.com/@infinitedevotion   Facebook: https://facebook.com/domsubdevotion   Andrew & Dawn are full time coaches and educators, working to support individuals and couples in building healthy, loving Dom/sub relationships. Here are some of the different free and paid options of how to work with and learn from us! Subscribe: Get updates when we publish new episodes of Dom Sub Devotion and other new content at https://www.infinitedevotion.com/podcastsubscribe   Website: Visit our website at https://infinitedevotion.com for all of our latest content. Coaching: You can learn more about working with us in 1-1 coaching and our various workshops, courses, and programs at https://infinitedevotion.com/work-with-us   Free Resources: FREE: The 12 Steps to Dominance: A free ebook showing men how to embody a healthy, loving Dominance. Download here: https://www.infinitedevotion.com/12-steps-to-dominance   FREE: Inspiring Her Submission Masterclass: A deep dive on how to inspire any woman to submit and surrender to you. Watch here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-masterclass   FREE: Devotional Dominance & Submission: A free ebook showing you how D/s dynamics and loving long term relationships work hand in hand. https://infinitedevotion.com/devotional-ds   Listen to Andrew's other podcast, Conscious Dominance! Conscious Dominance is a weekly conversation between two Dominant men as we navigate the demands and growth that are required of us in living in and leading inside of 24/7 Dom/sub relationships. These are deep conversations that go straight to the true heart of a Dominant man. Find Conscious Dominance at https://conscious-dominance.captivate.fm/ or on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or anywhere else you like to listen!   Becoming a Dominant Man is Andrew's flagship course for Dominant Men. Becoming a Dominant Man leads men through a 12 step process, the 12 Steps to Dominance, to claim full ownership of their lives and their inner strength, so that they can carry a loving strength, true Dominance, into their lives and relationships. Becoming a Dominant Man is a pre-recorded course that men can work through on their own time, but also includes live weekly instruction and Q&A with Andrew at no extra cost. Learn more about Becoming a Dominant Man at https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man     00:33 Understanding Topping from the Bottom 01:13 Balancing Submission and Voice 04:06 The Role of Safety in Submission 05:55 Dominant's Perspective on Safety 07:23 Challenges in Shifting Dynamics 09:47 Navigating Fear and Control 18:05 Advice for Submissives 32:55 Exploring Internal Muscles and Belief 33:39 Dissolving Trauma in Relationships 34:25 Understanding Fear and Control 34:46 Topping from the Bottom: Myth or Reality? 37:36 Navigating Emotional Reactions 39:35 The Role of Dominance and Submission 41:43 Building Trust and Integrity 44:11 Handling Emotional Reactions 56:28 Journaling and Self-Reflection 01:01:39 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies 01:03:01 Embracing Chaos and Submission