EPISODE · Mar 16, 2026 · 44 MIN
Touch Aversion: When your partner's touch makes your skin crawl (and what helps)
from Pleasure Uprising: Desire, Attachment, and the Sex You Actually Want · host Laura Jurgens, Ph.D.
Does your partner's touch make your skin crawl? You're not broken—and this is fixable.Touch aversion is when affectionate or sexual touch from your partner feels wrong in your body— irritating, threatening, or like you need to escape. This can happen even with light, loving touch. This isn't about attraction. It's a nervous system response— and it's more common than you think.In this episode, you'll learn:What touch aversion actually is (and why it's not rejection, it's protection)8 causes beyond sexual trauma—including disembodied consent, emotional coercion, being "touched out" from kids, unresolved resentments, and attachment patternsWhy therapy may help you understand it but doesn't solve it (and what does)Why your partner acting hurt about it makes it worse, even though it's understandableThe Three-Touch Discovery Process— a practice you can try today to start reconnecting with what your body actually wantsTouch aversion happens when your nervous system has learned that touch isn't safe— even with a safe partner. You can't think your way out of a body-based response. You need new somatic experiences to re-pattern.This is solvable. But you need guided work with someone who specializes in nervous system re-patterning, not just talk therapy. So we'll talk about what that looks like. If you want help, book a consultation at https://laurajurgens.com/book-a-consult/Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guideMore links: Substack at https://laurajurgens.substack.com/Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheelCopyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited.
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Does your partner's touch make your skin crawl? You're not broken—and this is fixable. Touch aversion is when affectionate or sexual touch from your partner feels wrong in your body— irritating, threatening, or like you need to escape. This can happen even with light, loving touch. This isn't about attraction. It's a nervous system response— and it's more common than you think. In this episode, you'll learn: What touch aversion actually is (and why it's not rejection, it's protection)8 ...
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