Toxic Relationships: How to Take Back Your Power and Thrive

Send us Fan MailToday’s episode is a very powerful discussion on a very real and difficult subject. A lot of people think that they would never allow themselves to be in a toxic relationship or be mistreated, yet it happens so often and leaves people feeling so isolated and hopeless. Alison’s guest today is Sarah Sawall and she is here to graciously share her story of bravery and awakening to the fact that her abusive relationship with a narcissist was not her fault, and it was time to get out.In this episode, Sarah talks about the moment she realized she needed to get out of her relationship, and the courage it took to take those steps. It is our hope that each person will realize we all deserve to be in a place where are thriving, not just surviving. Feelings of isolation, shame, and questioning our own sanity and actions can come from being in toxic relationships, especially when the other person has narcissistic qualities. You will learn what those signs are and that there is hope for a better and brighter future that reflects your strength, power, and courage.Key highlights:Evil can’t exist without secrecy so we need to shed a light on itSarah’s backstory of a near suicide attempt due to an abusive relationshipThe day Sarah finally woke up and cut off the relationshipHow she reconnected with her family after getting out of the relationshipPeople who are abused carry the shame of the abuseBe a wise observer of your situationThe “change back move”- the attempt of the other person to bring you back to homeostasis where you are the host of a parasiteForgiving yourself once you know better- an abuser has no hold of you when you forgive yourselfHow a narcissist isolates youHow religion can sometimes play a partTherapy specifically for an abusive narcissistRecognizing problems in a relationship with a narcissistNot blaming ourselves for the things that happened in a relationshipAre you benefiting your children by staying in an unhealthy relationship?About Sarah’s businessHow to reach out to SarahQuote from the episode:“The version that may be you now, isn’t who you actually are. Be a role model to yourself.” Connect with Sarah:Website: qontevo.comInstagram: @sarahsawallFacebook: Sarah SawallConnect with Alison:Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacConnect with Alison:Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources:Lager Counseling ServicesCall: 516-221-2123Text: (914) 363-0381Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential)Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org