Well, you back well come back welcome back. Welcome back. You're waiting for our people to get in here Okay I got two other people in the line to introduce ourselves. I'm Adrian One of those tires with friends and co-workers Glad to be back on the podcast with the entire Hello, I'm dishallana.
What a terrorist is our different coworkers. No way to be bad. All right, cool So this is called truth in friends point two Um, just want to say greetings to all my listeners out there Also, I just want to thank my co-host for their contribution to the show today Um, so today we're gonna get into it. So Kevin heart versus the lgbtq community Um recently Kevin harwood speak Well, he was um announced to be the host of the Oscars But not soon after he was targeted in my opinion by the media Um on a campaign to assassinate his character and the cash rate him in a sense Um now my first question is was Kevin heart wrong?
Well initially not want to apologize to the lgbtq community. Well, considering any considering he already apologized for Friends from 2012 Years ago. He didn't have to apologize again. At least that's my fear That's all the same.
I don't think um, I don't think that he did apologize like Because he apologized for it before I mean how many times do you have to explain yourself regarding the same thing? Um You know, I think that that that specific community, you know, they've become bullies in a sense, you know, like, um, they want to equate Their equality with you know being black in this world Or you know, just just wanting to be seen as equals But I think that they take it too far. So if this man apologized for something that happened You know five plus years ago, let it rush, you know, that's how I feel too You know, just let it go here. Hey, and y'all know, like nikana he pointed out that a lot of other White female community and Jewish comedians such as Sarah Silverman.
I think doesn't necessarily sell me Amy Schumer and um They all make the same type of comments, but there wasn't um, you know crucified in the media. Like why do y'all think it is? Well, actually, I was so mean was cool. So of course That's the that's the thing about it.
I mean to me this whole topic really boils down to And and I'll bring it out the fact that the quarterback from Oklahoma who just want to hire me And not 30 minutes after he didn't speak they pulled up tweet from what from eight years ago So they tell you how old he was when he tweeted this Basically, you know, it was something good stuff about you know the uh lg being TQ community And I find it that a lot of people basically are unhappy with their lives See somebody winning. There's like, you know what since he went in. Let me bring him down That's really what it's about It's not even about really okay being offensive to the homosexual community and stuff like that because they have a lot of people Who are homosexual was like man, that's the whole stuff I mean the thing about it is can't hardly realize you know what I don't want to fight this battle You know what I have money to make So I'm just gonna step down from hosting y'all find somebody else and I'm gonna go all live my life And to me that really was the best decision for him because as long as he Technically stayed as the host of the high schools They were gonna keep on the meals when trying to find other things if it wasn't for the statements That's gonna bring up the fact he cheated if it wasn't for that they're gonna bring up How his relationship with his ex-wife I thought it was tumultuous at one point even though it's not like that now They were just gonna find something to bring him down Basically they hate so that's the thing that that's to me that was a big assumption when he came to the situation Do you guys go the same way? Yeah, well It's just so many ways he could have played it had he gone through with it You know, um as a comedian, you know, I mean it's it's ways.
I think that he could have played it He could have he could have still done it without kissing ass You know what I'm saying? It's like it's like it's like it's just how he would have executed his punch lines during the show you know how he'd have just Just carried himself throughout the whole process in a whole award show Forget what they was gonna do, you know, he got a team of people that he pays to prop him for stuff like that So I don't think that that was a reason enough to not do it at the same token as par is his product You know what? I'm gonna let y'all do that and I'm gonna go on this side But being that you know At the end of the day as black people some of us are still striving just as a people You know to be recognized in these social or these specific societies, you know when it comes down to film because He's still trying to strive for that. So comedy wise, you know, career wise I think that he could have done it.
Um his stance could have been just his own craft His stance could have been his people, you know not doing it for himself or doing it for his people So I guess it just depends on how you look at it, but Very interesting. Dre that one That's about some interesting come to it though. Dre what you say? Um, so it's like I kind of understood what he was coming from where you know I saw on video he was saying the reason he was gonna step down You know he didn't want the spotlight to be on him when really the octopus supposed to be about you know the talent of the actress And things that nature and I mean I kind of I you know I kind of understand it because I mean let's be real Kevin Hart He's reached, you know a certain status.
He doesn't need the office really on his resume to Um, you know still his status as a comedian. I mean if you follow Kevin on instagram you see he sells out every arena You know every single night. So he has a fan base, you know He has the fame he has the money so far but so on. The only thing I didn't agree with Um as we kind of talked about I just didn't agree with him coming back and apologizing after he said that he wasn't gonna apologize like Yeah So so so that just brought that up.
He was like, um, I'm just an ass and stuff like that. And you know, Cat Williams and like else they basically warned Kevin Hart about this very exact thing You know, so if he so if he is selling out every arena and he got a lot of movie deals on the table Then why do y'all think he's still looking for white or something? Right if you was going I feel like if he was going to go in on the apologize again You should have went on and did that on stage and took it further because you didn't already bow down in a sense So you know I'm saying like redeem yourself in a sense just like for your own integrity Which would apologize for you already bow down so now it's like they attacked you They bullied you into apologizing and then they took the opportunity away from you and you let them That's that's kind of how you know, it can be looked at like that Like you could have did one of the other don't do both don't don't give it all to them You know I'm saying like snap or something, but you know, that may not be his stance in life period We can say he black we can say he a man. He may not associate himself with none of it You just don't know how a person really look at themselves and view themselves and how serious they take themselves as a person in this society So some people don't take it so heavy, you know, maybe he don't So this is a so this is a big question right here because you know, um, I think there's a pill about this up As well, do you have to be a septan of an alternate or lgbt lifestyle to be a top actor or actress and how to work if you're black While you would think it's a matter of if you just want to be accepted in Hollywood in general You're gonna run into different races queen color sexuality and stuff like that that you will work with That'll mean you have the food with them outside of your working space or whatever, but you can't be Truly, you know bigoted if you want to call it down because I want to if you want to work in a line of work And be good at it.
Hmm I have a question because you know I may be a little biased, but I'm not really a Kevin Holtz fan I think he's funny, but then I kind of he's kind of like a borderline sell-out to me in a sense of How he How he like how he execute his comedy, you know, he's always the joke You know what I'm saying? He's like he makes himself the butter the joke before somebody else Like the oldest trick in the book, but it works for him, but as far as as far as his audience I don't know if he has a white audience Like Eddie Murphy even a Dave Chappelle, you know, I can't say that he has that I know we like him You know as a people, but I can't say that, you know, he's selling out these white arenas with all the white faces So I don't I don't really follow Kevin Hart. I think he's funny, but I think it's the same type of funny He's kind of you know, he got old to me a long time ago. Every every movie he's saying he played the same role So so I don't even watch his stand up too much like after you know, everything is the same as so it's so plain to me in a sense You know, but you know as far as you know how they say when you ain't wrong do is the romance But it's his responsibility just like any artist, you know, it's your responsibility to figure out how you cannot be a sellout If that's if that's important to you though See like I was saying before that may not be important Kevin Hart just may be about getting his coins and saying hey, I'd sell out these arenas and they may be enough of him He may not have a social awareness You know in this society some people just don't care that could be him I don't know, but you know, like I said before I don't really follow Kevin Hart so I I can be wrong.
Correct me if I'm wrong if he has like a huge white audience following Compared to you know Eddie Murphy and Dave Shapiro. I don't know. I don't think so Well, anybody want to chime in? Well, I think you have a white following that's the reason why you make movies of the right That's like that's I guess the real financing buzz movements white people gotta like Yeah, I think you would have to have somewhat I mean, I'm not 100% sure either I think you have to have someone who like following to um, you know to be selling the you know type of arenas.
He's selling his stuff So Long to us and saw your brown. She's um, but don't know she's a 16 year old who she was recently sent this by the murder of Johnny island He was a 43-year-old real estate agent and apparently he was some help Um, it doesn't escape me that Johnny Island was a white male from Tennessee And he was basically sex trafficking her and she murdered him to escape. Now. How do you guys feel about this?
There's so many things that's wrong with that situation. It's ridiculous I mean, she shouldn't have to serve 51 years before she even be allowed to be on parole. She was defending herself They should have been self-defense should be free right now And it's just a situation was long to stay the Tennessee but you know that's the way it is when it comes to from adjusted system in blacks You know, look at this. I see That's all this.
I mean, I think it's also I mean, I never I mean especially like, you know, we see it every day like Um, you know, the way I said the criminal justice never really seems to work for us Um about us. I mean blacks, um, but I just I never thought that This girl, you know gets sentenced to 51 years. It's absolutely absurd Um, I didn't like I understand the case somewhat. Um, because I heard about it some years ago and it pissed me off as I'm sure it did Everybody but what I want to know is what was the what was the What was the defense, you know as far like when it came down to going to court and going to trowel What was the prosecutor's defense and saying hey, you know She murdered this man regardless of the fact that she was his sex slave.
I mean, she wasn't gonna get out of line Let's just be real that don't happen. Yeah, so what was she supposed to do if that was her only out? They were claiming that she um, since she I think she um killed him and she stole his wallet as well as um took his car But she also called so when she got the safety she called and reported the dead body So I don't think uh, I think she was just trying to escape. Um, but they were saying that she that she killed her.
Don't steal from it Not mentioned not to not mention in that She was being sex trafficked at 16 years old and he was basically um, you know in a form just touching him And And I want to um say this too like people claim justice is blind, but you know had there's been a white team trying to escape us to From a black forty three old mill Yeah Absolutely, that's just what would happen Yeah, and you know these prosecutors that um so the minor good summer she had the opportunity to leave But she just chose not to like nothing is like what is that? Now you don't know if this man was touching her had a tie up or had a drug No, I feel pain. I'm like white woman so they're so bad. She got a wallet Exactly.
That's the problem. That's the problem She could she could she could she could have she could have a man hand a 16 year old could a man hand with his grown ass man And escape with her life without hurting him. Yeah without stealing. I mean, they still don't know why I mean, that's just that's just You know, that's that was really a poor, you know, she she must have not had A decent team or halfway decent team representing her for them to be able to accuse other things that they did and and was a rewarded with 15 I mean what it was 51 years before parole.
She was a child You know, she was a grown woman and she was a kid, you know, but yeah like you say black women on field pain You know, we can muster anything we could take anything and still instill rise above that's what's expected of the black woman You know to go through the my replay You know, say to go through the dirt the gutter the valley and still come out at the mountain and be not even recognized as a hero And that's not even what we looking for. You know, that's not what has been put on us and burden on us with but pay Not only the sex track we already know that's political we already know it's the it's the the riches of the rich is executing that, you know, so then that's another another Situation with that, you know, like they feel in it. That's what they doing Taking bodies taking our bodies taking our organs. What's the little sex?
That's nothing Let them tell it so So next topic is gonna be um, Michelle Williams and a few other changes they got they get the push on Now I call it tactics whirling. I got something I think let me define Tactus whirling. I think Tactus whirling is when you're gonna black woman Or a black male chooses to date out their race and they're called all types of racial epithets and they're subjugated to all types of racial abuse He hollyberry when she had a babies from the guy and she called he called all types of little bitches And he did that in public so i'm trying to figure out how many times he did that in private Another example would be the football player ever hands were His his own baby mama called him all types of niggas And in public and i'm trying to get him in time. She did that in private So you guys that is guys are trans supporter and he's a pastor and I want to point out just because you have sex with black women It doesn't mean that you're not a white supremacist.
So what do you guys think about this type of toxic swelling or um, as i like to call it gay I guess i'm trying to figure out what part of it the fact that African-Americans Allard itself to be fetishized about other ways instead of actually just being like true legitimate relationship with other ways Yeah, yeah, like how they better make the same she said i'm nobody a black man over again in life And she seems like she's suffering more abuse i'm gonna use on these white guys than they she did every day with black man So i'm trying to figure out Well, first of all she confused because she mixed and a white woman raised her And so regardless of how she looking regardless of what movie she in and movies she's in and who her friends are she still confused That's the whole you know biracial You know, I don't know, that's just I think that's a part of it But you know, but my thing is this though. No, I think black people raised Michelle Williams. Oh, yeah. Well, yeah, absolutely Well, she a whole that's a whole heart issues to me regarding and let's let's not even talk about chain She not her own demons dealing with you know, it's like To me I just look at it just being so unhappy and she's been unhappy for a long time She just don't fit into the things that she's trying to like that's in his child All of that is just not who she is and I just feel like everything she do just seems forced to me I like the episode of that that that that show and everything was just forced from now you working out outside with your little friend and It just didn't it's just not her to me and I don't think nobody really know who we shall Williams is because she got so much flack being in a group to where she doesn't have an identity So if she got identity issues and she hooked up with somebody that I can't say he has identity issues But she can't even recognize his issues.
He's a supreme his family. Don't even like her You know, like your pastor It's just none of that added up to me and she wanted to blame him But really he had his issues, but she needs to look at her own issues like what drew you to that man first of all Well, what in your mind makes you feel like this is okay to be with her I Might be talking Yeah Like we were saying, you know, Michelle William stuff is from depression and when you're depressed You can't like see first of all you can't fully be in a relationship anyway because you're dealing with your own demons like j Hmm now speaking of that. All right, talk about black men and black women relationships. Okay No I find that when I talk to people overall black men and black women aren't having the best of relationships or Um, I'm hearing that black women are selling for the black men that they're choosing or the black men that choose them What's going on?
I need I want my black woman to speak. Um, I definitely think That there is some settling going on. Um, I think we kind of touched on this a little bit in the last podcast, but um, yes I'm selling going on because there's um, a lack of black men when I was being like a black man Like I talked about before um far as those that are not incarcerated those that are not gay those that are financially stable. So a lot of black women are just selling Um, I mean, I agree with what she's saying, you know Because we're still the product of their whole, you know, pipeline thing or not even a pipeline yet Just the whole take the black father that home, you know, and so the millennials we dealing with that shit Like we dealing with that and nobody understanding but us um As far as like she said like, um Adrian, right?
That was a yeah, sorry. Um, it's like It was saying, you know, if they're not like financial stable, that's the least for me You know My problem is You download or you're gay, you know, if that's what you're doing. That's what you're doing for being your true But you can't expect somebody to be real with you if they're not real themselves. So That's like a whole mental thing that is going on like a month's hour our community, you know with that and I don't know.
I just I think that both sides of settlement. I think black men are settling and I think black women are settling You know, we have a disconnect. Can I ask you why you think black men are settling? because I say that because there are some some black women, you know Our generation that they don't we don't understand love You know, we don't understand because our fathers wasn't in the household some of our some of our fathers went in the household So we don't we don't understand how to How to relate to a man You know without seeing him being anything other than that, you know We see a lot of the gay men and they're exploited on television and you know the ones that do speak up are staying around they bullied them like Kevin Hart, you know It's like it's just it's hard to weed out Weed out.
I can't I don't even want to say good black men. It's just just a man period, you know, like I think that they're settling because it's just a disconnect on both sides So if it's a disconnect on both sides and it wouldn't be fair to say only the women are settling now Do I think women are selling anymore? Yes? Do I think that women arise to the self-awareness of what they want and who they want quicker than a man?
Yes, I think that you know, but I think it would be biased to say that men don't Don't settle because you have some good guys out there that are really looking for women to understand love They understand the role of a woman versus a man, you know, that is true, but don't you think like men? They have a lot more to shoot like their selection is a lot greater than I was Absolutely, it's more women walking to earth than men. I mean freely anyway the ones that ain't locked up or dead or gay, you know Absolutely absolutely they have more pickings than we do so that's what I was trying to get, you know, tired to see that, you know You know, there's some of them might I don't really feel like I mean don't get me wrong women definitely don't have to settle either But um, I think we just you know, we just don't have to pick up the lid like they do No I have to know my thing is this I have to I have to just believe it because that's your life There there are because I mean like most women say they want it I mean I would do most women to look for in a man They look for me to be educated where it is informal or formal they look for men to be decisive I'll be a little bit more than I would look at for it Not all women are looking for it So So what so I'm saying like what criteria are you looking for in a man a male who is a natural leader I'm telling you That's not all there's all those probably not all women are looking for men as a natural leader How do you gonna know what a man how do they know what a man look for they didn't have an example now? I know Yeah, that's one of the disconnects, you know, not like I was saying earlier, you know A lot of men women women as little girls because let's go back not as women, but as children, you know We didn't see a father or a consistent father figure in a home When you wake up in the morning when you're gonna sleep at night every day, you know, that just that just did happen and even if and I'll give the benefit of the you know, the fathers and give credit to those that were there But they worked so much and it's no blame you do what you got to do But It just it slims it down even more so, you know, like there is no, you know, no example and not enough examples Shall I say, you know, and then women like he said a lot of not looking for leads?
Well, no a lot of us not looking for leaders. I'm looking for a leader, but I understand the disconnect of how I was generation of women We're not looking for the leads because we're taught to lead, you know, because we didn't have the example of a leader So what you're gonna do you're gonna lead, right? You still got to pick yourself up every day and go about your life and do the best you can for your family Or whomever's left in your household to take care of you still have to do it. So yeah, I agree every and then you got the ones that They're not looking for a leader, but it has nothing to do with them not having an example or the mind control over man It's just that's just not what they want.
They're not that deep You know, they're not thinking that deep in it and then for me That's like that's another reason why I can say a man sometimes settle for the women because they're not giving the opportunity to be a leader Because the woman is allowing them to be that So then they settle in a different way. So um So um You know, I bring this up a lot, you know, my baby is old school because you know, I was raised by somebody I was born in 1913 So I got like old school values. Um, and maybe I need to modify somebody Do we have that culture right now like um In a black and black culture I think it's a little bit of that culture too I mean think so just think about like what we're saying we have so many um little girls be raised in homes, you know No father figure or you know, no male figure at all some people You know, some some of us or some females, you know, they may have like an uncle or something who may serve as a father figure But some some people don't have anybody at all. So what are they resorting to?
They resorting to like, um, the music Uh, so what's out right now city girls? What are they promoting? So exactly. So I mean that's the culture But that's always why I was saying the culture because They're looking at whose popular if I remember like I was using the example Nicki Minaj They viewed her new boyfriend these past two days and they went to the background Uh convicted of attempted wait that 16 that night point Also part of murder charge and all the other type of charges, but yeah So if you want to talk about the settling thing That's a the example don't get along with you as an entrepreneur.
You must be getting a bag or something like that But this dude is a whole you know, I don't know the call somebody who's Getting out of jail depending on social status where I'm a criminal But not his dude is a criminal So She fell at least she got to have somebody Because of you know, what society says so instead of just waiting out, you know getting somebody They don't have to be in the industry, but they could be independent of the world there whatever like that She didn't want to wait. She chose this dude. Just do it appealing to her because of when she feel what I made it Isn't supposed to be and we don't see what happens But I know I don't want to look at that and be like, okay Yeah, make you do what I could do it too Anything that is It can be something real small and it hasn't been exploited yet. We can we won't necessarily call it culture But the minute it gets loaded That's right.
Now it's being adopted into the culture and it's a trend, you know, that's what we use call it without the stringing Whatever's popping at the time. That's what that's what it is and everybody just follows You know So now you know me and mr. Lee, so we have um, I'm gonna call it a passionate conversation about um Black women and black man's accountability like we were talking about our belief teachers. I think he's only singing baby mama I thought it was a So so but they were Mr.
Lee, so I was like, hey, man, he needs to stop getting these with the pregnant I was like this is the shot. Hey, like he raving up like he just like they want to be it's like so so who If you had to say somebody that's accountable Who has more accountability or who deserves more accountability for the state of the black community right now? Condition of the black community is in right now That's all because when I say a thank culture. I wasn't just talking about women The man too, you know, the man that's out here, you know They're here just Having babies and leaving them which is a condition of slavery by the way because that's what happened in slavery But also the women that's willing to get pregnant in order to be financially secure.
Who would you say is more accountable? I don't think you could say more. I'm adding both parties are equally accountable And I think that's using my point. We have our pasted discussions is I'm not just gonna put it all on a black woman I'm gonna put it on the black man to put it on that type of song Because this is my own thing You know what I use future as a sample for the black man that's not that He has money.
He's independently wealthy. But how could he be in all these kids lives if they had simple households In all this going to especially if you have daughters how they're gonna learn some other make a workman If they fall is not there to show them how to go They'll be wrong So that's why I am I issue for future now understand what you say about okay The women are getting pregnant for the bank and putting their whole life in this world just to get pain And I always tell you they're wrong for it. But I always say future need to stop being a sucker Even this industry too long. He came up under the dundra family of our kids big boy.
No, I'm really down. He should know better It's not like he's new to this and that's my issue with future. That's I mean, it wasn't really what any man That that out here leaving this sea everywhere kids are expensive very expensive I Put yourself in poverty having a child Unresponsive the same thing's happened on the same over the past year. Hey, but separate eight separate moments of passion with eight separate people No, that's not the way to do it Yes accountability.
I think that I think that There you know both for it is equally accountable, you know, like but then you look at future future I mean I look at it as a bad thing to have all you have men that don't look at it as a bad thing to be fruitful They are fruit and they multiply and you'll get sometimes in in my experience You'll get men that I want more kids than a woman want You know, they might not get if I may want eight kids. They might not get this They know they probably not because I'm not pushing eight babies. I'm and I don't know too many women in my generation about the I don't tell what they say about old black women got all these children. No, we're not I'm not doing I might give you two you had to go you finally go back to the other folks away I'm not so you just you don't know, you know, look at P.
Did it P. Did it got what five kids? Yeah, and got three three baby moments I don't think that man. Look at that.
It's being a bad thing You know, he's he's fruitful. He feel like let's say you take a man again and for their kids Okay, money ain't everything like you said like uh, this song said you can't be in a household owner And then you talk about getting full five different women to get along and say hey You're kid can come with me and my kids and we be a family. That's a perfect world. That's not realistic though I'm sorry, but I was gonna say the thing with this Did he is the exception to the fact that all three of his baby mama's not alone It really is into the fact that one of his baby mama's was like, okay.
I'm not gonna be in a flotation I got one child for y'all my dog who's my self-realist This rotation while he was made in the other two for decades And then when he had you know the twins in the one door At the same time like I said they've been dating didn't for decades at this point So it was almost like oh, I won't have a child. Okay. I'll get you part because I know you want to have a child you want your kids Then the other one was I already have a child with you I adopted your older child. So I don't mind your average my kids, but it still took work by the three women You know god bless the day, but it took work by all three of them because you don't see pictures of the kids I would get at different people houses and stuff like that even one, you know, the one lady died The other two women stepped in to help girls with other kids because like I said, these women show women I'm not gonna say they did it because of the day they did it in spider day in allowing me to do what you do So my two black women that's on the line right now I want to be clear and correct.
I want to tell them how much I look on this one Just question right here. I want to start with jazz first. What what what do black women want? Specifically from black man specifically.
I can you speak for black women but speak for yourself For me, you know, um and I and let me just be honest, you know, I'm 31 years old and my father wasn't in the home. So It takes longer It takes longer to first even understand the roles like you got to understand the roles of a man and a woman or a husband and wife You know, so that comes later and I think it's only then then you can kind of really know what it is you want from them If that makes sense, um, but for me You know For me, I just you know what I like about a man is that he knows what he want like he He knows what he want and he can be bold about it He can be bold about it and he can be a leader, you know, I want a man to be a leader I don't want to feel like I got to carry all the week and I and I don't want him to feel like he has to carry all the We either I feel like it's a partnership. Um, but I definitely want him to be a lead Be the leader because I feel like he is the man if we build this something and this is our home Our life we create I feel like he's the head of it and I and I'm his team me if that makes sense Um, so I got in a nutshell That's what I want and with that, you know, I want to be loved, you know, just like a man wants to be respected You know, it's like I think that men receive love in a form of respect If that makes you agree, you know, where the women, you know, we are great of love You know, like we view love and y'all view love as respect in a sense so You know, just I guess be a leader know what you want and and be unconditional with me As I should be with him, you know, and with that comes with that is love and respect So I Know we can't we just too black one we can't speak for my all but Okay You know Yeah, well I start off with me. I'm I'm really just like jazz, you know, I need somebody who's gonna lead.
I need somebody who's gonna listen to me Um, you know, like I said, I don't I don't want to you know, it's except that I'm trying to help you build, you know Um, that I'm never trying to hurt anyone that I'm just, you know, I'm trying to help you help build your character Um love respect all that um, but like I said, most of all being able to lead I don't I don't I don't personally I don't want a man who can't lead and I just doesn't know what he want That's um, I just personally can't can't deal with that you can trust it Because if you can't leave yourself and if you don't know what you want to do No, mr. D. Shaw. How do you suggest we go about doing better by women and healing our women starting to build up Well Because I think that's our responsibility.
I mean, it's not just it's not just on them that is our responsibility, but they gotta want to be here Okay, you know, they have a lot of people on realizing stuff from ptsd don't realize they're scarred They take that proof of their firm you come with some healing stuff. They're like, what the hell would you there's all soft-ass? Exactly For the first step is them realizing they need to be healthy deal the second part is we have to be understanding the notion as well as protecting I mean, it now. I don't need this protect on physically.
I mean emotionally too and also me, you know, we can't be out here So And I'm glad you said that about emotional protected show because I want to like Just adding something real quick for the me like I think a lot of times like The men are giving up on women too fast like we were saying, you know, a lot of us are scarred and have you know Just different things that we're dealing with or you know from whatever it is whether it's the way you grew up or the relationships That you've been in since you've been an adult like a lot of us do have a lot of scarring and it's like I think me and give up on it too fast like the first instead of trying to figure out what's going on or how they can help How to compete up for the first thing they say oh, she crazy. I can't be by the way. She crazy Wait Yeah But at the same token is like you can't really blame me. They got the constitution for it, you know, like Right, exactly.
Exactly. Like you gotta have some endurance Behind you to deal with you dealing with a woman where society has already told her she don't feel pain Okay from the dapas to the courtroom to her husband to her children to society Everybody says that the black woman can handle it. So that is that a lot of stuff comes with that I gotta put this in there too though. I gotta get you on the flip side because I got it.
I got it. No You know, y'all say I'm hard on the women, but you not really do love the women. I do love our women But you know the thing is I think that was just over looked at is Man we get I'm talking about we can all talk like me. Mr.
She's always talking about less back as that and I didn't even notice this like I don't even Feel comfortable even my house without my gun. Yeah Like we get we can slaughter down here in the streets Constantly we cannot hear blown up. We get immediate consequences with our actions and I feel like we're gonna do things too Oh, yeah, and understand understand the woman's plight. Um, I think though If we could be more trusting of each other initially So we show each other otherwise, then maybe that could better chances that a productive relationship.
Oh, yeah, I mean You know, I said all the time communication is key. You know, it's too many of us that can't express ourselves You know, like we can't like if you can't even describe what you feel right now. That's a problem You know, it looks like growing up, you know, and let me let me jump back a little bit When you look at a white kid versus a black kid a white kid can express themselves verbally That is usually better than a black kid if that makes sense And I think somebody had to do with the freedom that they have versus the freedom that black is at where they say home They got the freedom in or in the schools or whatever the case but White kids they can just kind of dissect and just tell you just how it is how do you feel? They don't battle things though, but we do because we talked about say about a shout out about speaking being a grandfold business Right, we taught but even but even with that, you know, just being out and about everything It's just we're so suppressed.
You feel me? We suppressed now. We're we suppressed by others You know, we you know, we suppressed oppressed just press down They haven't learned they trying to catch up as adults with communication with each other You know what I'm saying? I just feel like that that's a part of the problem That's a part of the problem.
I didn't even express ourselves. You know, if you ask me what's wrong. Yeah, I need to be able to tell you what time it is Or at least even tell you know, I don't know what's wrong with me. It's some wrong though, but I don't know So just give me a minute even that much, you know, you can't go a long way then what we do which is shut down Don't say nothing or ain't nothing wrong with something going on.
But you don't want to you know, you can't you can't express it or you you want to be stubborn You know the petty game, you know They don't get us nowhere So the next topic would be um cloud chasing as mr. Eshandas mentioned we have a trench Couch chasing Couch chasing it could be defined as a person who hangs around another person or beef with them the game popularity Um, I told them about a six nine He does a lot of couch chasing and a black man or you might find we got a generation of women who my post butchats or They butchives just like to teach up and on that professor. I think it's just fine. It's your All right, I was a teacher that she's fine.
I'm off of it, but she she posted a picture hole she's in class and she basically like posted a picture of but so Or her being a curvy I feel like just I'll take a while. This is a trend in a black man. Well, I'm gonna say it's not even a black community As a society in general, everybody wants clout everybody wants influence Everybody wants to be the man other woman nowadays. Nobody just want to live their life and be heavy They want to show people how they live in their life and being heavy The reason why people post all their money and material things on this the way or you know, post I just talk about the uh the teacher posted a video of herself teaching a class She's not saying what school she's teaching a class at or what's the subject?
She's just showing she teaching a place so you can see all your najins. Oh, it's just people want to be popular It's that simple. They don't care about anything else You know used to be when I was coming up people want to have money Just to have money now people want to be popular to get money to be more popular. It is It's all related what it really all boils down to insecurity Oh, um social media has made really many people insecure and You know, you're constantly fighting to you know, compare to other people You know, I got to show I have to show this one that I got more money than her or I got more cars than him I got more homes than him.
Just you know, whatever It's insecurity. Yeah I am holding post all day. Uh, there's a little bit of a joke. I'll be close to there though.
Um Uh, I agree with everything y'all say, you know, it's for us that this is my first time Or you know even hearing the freeze, but it's very relevant. Um You know, people are just like I know somebody that wanted to take pictures Just to take pictures like wanted to change into different clothes Just to take pictures to look like they was doing something they like, you know, personal And I thought it was funny at the time and it's just like this is the whole society You know, this is what everybody's doing, you know, we just uh, what's the word? Um Pretentious, you know, everything everything is pretentious everything everything. Nobody's doing anything just to be real You know, oh, we we get to the point.
Well, we put too much emphasis on quote unquote being real just be you You know, whatever you got going on is what's going on. So it's real anyway. So, you know, why you even got to put pressure and okay, you know, it's just too much it's too much comparisons from me to you and And you and somebody, you know watching videos and pictures of people that you don't even know, you know, like So what that being said, I feel like um, we get a lot of our We are dependent on the dominant society for a lot of things as far as like um finances and even self-esteem How do we become more productive and dependent and independent? I have to be stronger mentally.
That's Realizing you need to live your life without worrying about what other people think. Yeah for you It was best for you don't get what more about what other people think about what other people were doing in your situation I mean, it's good to take advice from people but don't go out just seeking other people's attention It comes a lot of stuff and that's the problem with today's society They're trying to seek itself into the tension from other people that you don't even know And then you're doing it from you trying to seek the approval and attention of people that don't even know who they are So you find yourself really just chasing your tail Because as soon as they find out who they are, I'm pronounced to you know, you Knowing or them knowing that you know, you following them They don't switch gears because that's what's best for them and they trying to figure this out like you But it's better you trying to really figure it out for yourself You find somebody else's methods and how do you doing and then somebody else? Like I think what what is Apple or you know how we mentioned his name really how to catch a six-man His whole thing was the trolling thing online calling out other weapons on all other weapons blocks when he was safe of course but just basically calling him a whole bunch of confusion and stuff and He was busy trying to go on the cloud while the gang he was representing was using him to make money along the body Well, he realized oh they're using me and they were probably blind and stuff like this He tried to get away but he all the thing he knows is cloud trick chasing and trolling So even when he was trying to get away, he still was cloud chasing and trolling trying to get away from them Now he in the face and then about it is other young cats was following behind here They are arrested a little 16-year-old rapping from Brooklyn. That was two three weeks ago He got posted a video harassing this little eight-year-old kid slapping them up and stuff like they trying to go viral Not his laughing skills, but he trying to go viral by slapping them some way not make your child And he thought it's just because he's trying to be popular and get used, you know on Twitter Instagram or whatever People must want to get killed like that So That's all I got tonight guys.
I want to thank you for joining me. Thank you for your contributions I want everybody to give us some positive send me over some positive Mr. Sean Hey, man be yourself. That's all I got to say.
Hey, can you make us man? I'm real about it though I was gonna say the same thing. You know what kind of left off of there like I said tamales just be you Don't worry about what the world got going on. You know set your own pace.
Do your own thing Yeah, absolutely. I agree, you know Um, it's too much life to live, you know, then to be caught up in somebody else's on somebody else's journey You know, I have different gifts different talents different ambitions different dreams where there's old new suppress dreams or whatever it is as yours, you know what I'm saying and You know god put us here for purpose and it wasn't to follow behind each other Speaking of talents. Dre dad of the hell of a audience. So if you need an artist for you, oh, yeah, oh, I'm sure I will That's a connection to You won't be disappointed.
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