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EPISODE · May 3, 2022 · 40 MIN

Turning 40 and the Curse of ‘Should’

from The Big Four Oh: The Podcast About Turning 40

In this episode, Stephanie McLaughlin sits down with Jaime Lang to explore her transformative journey through her 30s and into her 40s. Jaime shares candidly about the highs of her late 20s, the challenges of her midlife years, and the unexpected move that led her to Florida. This episode is a deep dive into personal evolution, finding happiness in unexpected places, and learning to live life without the burden of "should."Turning 40 and the Curse of ‘Should’Episode Highlights: Jaime discusses her vibrant life in her late 20s and early 30s, filled with friends and adventures, and how things shifted as she moved into her mid-30s.The unexpected closure of the college where Jaime worked sparked a significant identity crisis, leading her to reassess her life and career.Jaime's spontaneous decision to move to Florida after a brief visit, and how this move represented a fresh start during a tumultuous period.The challenges and realizations Jaime faced when turning 40, including feeling disconnected from her long-time friends and the life she envisioned.Jaime's journey of self-discovery in Florida, her return to the things she loves like nature and hiking, and her recent move to North Carolina.The concept of "shoulding all over yourself" as discussed by Jaime, focusing on the pressures women often place on themselves to meet societal expectations.Strategies for personal growth and maintaining mental health, including the journaling technique shared by Stephanie to balance internal dialogues.Mentioned Resources: Book: "How Full Is Your Bucket?" by Tom Rath and Donald O. CliftonIn this heartfelt episode, Jaime Lang opens up about the rollercoaster of her midlife years, from feeling lost and disconnected to rediscovering her joy and independence in new surroundings. Her story is a powerful reminder of the importance of self-reflection, the impact of life's unexpected turns, and the continuous journey towards personal fulfillment. Jaime's experiences and Stephanie’s insights provide valuable lessons on navigating midlife with grace and resilience.If you enjoyed this episode, please consider rating, following, and reviewing the Forty Drinks Podcast. Your feedback helps us bring more inspiring stories and valuable lessons to listeners like you.SponsorThe Forty Drinks Podcast is presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/CommunicationsBecome a member of the Forty Drinks family! Listen, Rate & SubscribeAmazonAppleGoogle Spotify

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The last time Jaime Lang remembers being blissfully happy was when she was 27. Things just felt simpler and easier back then. By the time she was in her mid-30s she felt like she had gotten lost. She was overwhelmed by all the "shoulds” she felt she wasn't meeting. So she "accidentally" moved to Florida! By the time she was 40, she felt smarter, and like things rolled off her shoulders more easily. Now, at 45, even though she hasn't achieved everything she wants (who has?), she feels happier and more grounded than she did in her 30s.

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