Turning 40, Imposter Syndrome & Mismatched Libidos

This week in the Dear Clementine inbox: I am a few months away from 40 and am feeling really anxious. I am particularly struggling with unpicking the patriarchal lies within that tell me women over 40 have no value. While I can look around and see so many women in their 40s and older thriving and continuing to be vibrant, beautiful, powerhouses, I still can't shake this feeling that it's all downhill from here.  A very yuck part of me wonders whether or not I’m “allowed” to write a book as a someone who hasn’t been to university. I would never judge a person for choosing a life path that best serves them, so why am I judging myself and speculating the way other people may view me? Do you have any advice for how to best navigate something like this?  My boyfriend's sex drive is through the roof, whereas mine is what I would consider pretty average. I hate turning him down, but I also hate having sex I don't really want.  Do you think people with different sexual needs can make their relationships work, or do we both need to look for someone more compatible?  If you have a question for Clementine, send her an email at [email protected] Producer: Edwina StottAudio Production: Adrian WaltonManaging Producer: Elle Beattie For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.auSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.