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EPISODE · Mar 22, 2026 · 40 MIN

TWOU EP 20 - Deconstructing Faith Without Losing God

from The Whole of Us · host Kelsey & Tom Wauchope

Someone asked us recently how we incorporate God into our life. And honestly? We don't incorporate him. He's not a habit we slot in — he's become the lens through which everything else makes sense.But getting here nearly cost us everything. Our marriage, our identity, our sense of safety. We had to unlearn a version of God built on performance and guilt before we could meet the one who just wanted to sit with us in the mess.This is probably our most vulnerable conversation yet. We talk about faith deconstruction, what it meant to let God into the places we were most ashamed of, and why the kindest thing we ever did for ourselves was stop trying to be good enough.What we talk about:What deconstruction actually means (and why it's not destruction)The moment faith stopped being about rulesMeeting God in people and places we never expectedHow healing trauma and deepening faith go hand in handWhy God doesn't need you to have it all figured out0:20 How We Actually Integrate Faith Into Daily Life1:40 Why Deconstructing Faith Doesn't Mean Destroying It4:22 Reframing Who God Actually Is7:11 When God Didn't Feel Safe10:05 Vulnerability as the Gateway to Real Faith15:24 Healing Trauma and Finding Freedom in Faith19:08 Encountering God in Unexpected People and Places23:25 What Unconditional Love Actually Looks Like31:29 Why Healing Your Past Isn't Selfish39:22 You Don't Have to Figure It Out Before Coming to God✨ Listen to the Full Podcast🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6YFuoKTYMYQBkoBqDU6RWX🍎 Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-whole-of-us/id1852384590🎙️ Podcast page: https://thewholeofus.riverside.com/❤️ Follow Alonghttps://instagram.com/thewholeofushttps://facebook.com/we.are.the.whole.of.ushttps://www.tiktok.com/@thewholeofus🌿 Our Website + Stories🔗 https://thewholeofus.com/

Someone asked us recently how we incorporate God into our life. And honestly? We don't incorporate him. He's not a habit we slot in — he's become the lens through which everything else makes sense.But getting here nearly cost us everything. Our marriage, our identity, our sense of safety. We had to unlearn a version of God built on performance and guilt before we could meet the one who just wanted to sit with us in the mess.This is probably our most vulnerable conversation yet. We talk about faith deconstruction, what it meant to let God into the places we were most ashamed of, and why the kindest thing we ever did for ourselves was stop trying to be good enough.What we talk about:What deconstruction actually means (and why it's not destruction)The moment faith stopped being about rulesMeeting God in people and places we never expectedHow healing trauma and deepening faith go hand in handWhy God doesn't need you to have it all figured out0:20 How We Actually Integrate Faith Into Daily Life1:40 Why Deconstructing Faith Doesn't Mean Destroying It4:22 Reframing Who God Actually Is7:11 When God Didn't Feel Safe10:05 Vulnerability as the Gateway to Real Faith15:24 Healing Trauma and Finding Freedom in Faith19:08 Encountering God in Unexpected People and Places23:25 What Unconditional Love Actually Looks Like31:29 Why Healing Your Past Isn't Selfish39:22 You Don't Have to Figure It Out Before Coming to God✨ Listen to the Full Podcast🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6YFuoKTYMYQBkoBqDU6RWX🍎 Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-whole-of-us/id1852384590🎙️ Podcast page: https://thewholeofus.riverside.com/❤️ Follow Alonghttps://instagram.com/thewholeofushttps://facebook.com/we.are.the.whole.of.ushttps://www.tiktok.com/@thewholeofus🌿 Our Website + Stories🔗 https://thewholeofus.com/

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