Understanding Core Shame

Understanding Core Shame," dives into this powerful emotion to help you bring what is unconscious into the light.While guilt is the feeling that "I did something bad," core shame is the belief that "I am bad". It is a primary emotion that becomes a core part of one's identity, often leading to feelings of being flawed, fraudulent, or never good enough. This sense of self is often formed by stories we internalized as children that are not true.In this video, we will explore:• The Origins of Core Shame: Learn how core shame is induced from "ruptures in interpersonal bridges"—the emotional severing of bonds with caregivers, family, or others—and originates in the right brain, living in our unconscious, implicit memory.• How Shame Gets "Hardwired": Discover how the beliefs and attitudes we observe in our parents become embedded as "hardwired" pathways in our subconscious minds, particularly between the ages of 2 and 6 when the brain is in a highly programmable state.• The "Architecture" of Shame: We'll break down how early attachment, co-regulation (or lack thereof), and emotional safety form the foundation for the scripts and stories that create a "false self" rooted in shame.• Defenses Against Shame: Uncover common coping mechanisms like perfectionism, avoidance, rage, blaming, and people-pleasing that serve as defenses against the painful feeling of shame.Recognizing shame is the first step toward more effective treatment; failing to do so often makes problems worse. This video will provide you with the foundational knowledge to begin connecting the dots between a current feeling, a body sensation, an early memory, and a core shame belief. By understanding where the story comes from, you can begin the journey of forgiveness, creating a new story, and reconstructing your authentic self.Join us to uncover the roots of shame and start your path toward healing.Listen to a comprehensive deep dive 1 hour and 50 mins of what shame is in depth and how to transform it [click here] to listen. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit esthernava.substack.com