Understanding Sex Avoidance in Marriage

When a woman consistently avoids sex in marriage, she is accused of rebellion, sin, manipulation, or blamed for all manner of things.In this episode, I unpack one of the foundations of my work: Healthy women, in safe marriages, don't turn down good sex for no reason. Rather than placing blame, or spiritualizing obligation, let's frame sex avoidance as what it really is: Information. Your body is offering you data about safety, pleasure, pressure, and connection.Let's talk about what "healthy" actually means, why safety is so much more than "he doesn't hit me," and how unwanted or not pleasurable sex will eventually destroy a libido. I'm all about challenging lazy theology, entitlement disguised as reverent faith, and inviting couples to replace pressure with curiosity.If you've ever lamented the disappearance your desire, or felt ashamed for a body that never experienced sex the way it was "supposed to" - this episode is for you.Because the goal of marriage isn't sex at any cost.It is intimacy that invites sex worth wanting.Resources to go along with this episode:The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Gottman(aff link)Intimate Conversations, a sex journal by The Christian SexpertTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.