Understanding the Tactics of Predatory Criminals: Kelly's Story

The Women Aware and Prepared host reads Kelly's story from the book, The Gift of Fear.We listen as Kelly is manipulated into letting a charming stranger into her home to "help" her with her groceries.We learn how Kelly, a 27 year old woman, listened to her own intuition and saved her life after this Good Samaritan-appearing stranger sexually assaulted her and was planning to come back to the bedroom to kill her.Kelly found that fear was actually a powerful ally that allowed her to save herself. We learn with Kelly, from the author of The Gift of Fear, Gavin de Becker, the strategies that Kelly's perpetrator used. De Becker shares multiple survival signals to heed for our own safety.He believes that understanding and intuitively listening to the fear of danger is key to being able to protect oneself from such situations.LESSONS LEARNEDPay attention to the survival signals that predatory criminals use which warn us of danger, especially when paired together.Forced teaming builds premature trustToo many details are a distraction moveCharm and Niceness can be a directed instrument with a motiveTypecasting exploits our desire to look good and appear niceLoan Sharking makes you feel like you need to return a favorUnsolicited Promise is a dangerous hint when you never asked for a promiseDiscounting our NO is a huge red flag!The book read in this episode is the National Bestseller, The Gift of Fear, by Gavin De Becker. This is the #1 self defense tool I always recommend. Read the whole book or listen on Audible.You can find Mandi on Instagram @WomenAwareAndPrepared or her website, WomenAwareAndPrepared.com. Sign up for her Tuesday Tip emails at the bottom of her site to feel safer and more powerful.Music by Andrea Hamilton Binley at HopefulPop.com.The primary purpose of the Women Aware and Prepared Podcast is to educate and inform. This podcast series does not constitute advice or services. Please use common sense for your own situation.Today’s episode falls under “Fair Use” - a copyright disclaimer under section 107 of the copyright art. Allowance is made for fair use - purposes such as commenting and teaching, as we are doing today. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. All rights and credit go directly to its rightful owners. No copyright infringement intended. I do not own this content. What I share from it is meant for educational purposes.TIMESTAMPS0:02:00 Kelly's Story from "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker0:03:26 Conversation Between Two Strangers: Trusting a Good Samaritan0:06:38 Kelly's Story of Survival: How Fear and Intuition Saved Her Life0:09:32 Exploring the Power of Fear That May Save a Life0:11:40 Survival Signals: Understanding the Tactics of Predatory Criminals0:13:30 What is Forced Teaming: How to Recognize and Defend Against Manipulation0:15:35 Conversation on Charm and Niceness0:18:04 Recognizing Deception Through Too Many Details0:21:10 Recognizing and Defending Against Typecasting0:22:20 How a Predatory Criminal May Use Loan Sharking0:24:32 The Unsolicited Promise0:26:10 Discounting the word “No” and Negotiating0:28:34 Summary: Understanding Intuition and Survival SignalsSend me a message