Unedited & Unapologetic: Mike Tomes on Authenticity, Family, and Fashion

Some conversations don’t need polish. They don’t need editing. They simply need space—space for truth, for laughter, for pain, and for the kind of stories that shape who we are.In this episode, Rachel sits down with her dear friend Mike Tomes for a raw, unedited conversation that feels more like a heart-to-heart over coffee than a podcast interview. Mike takes us on a journey from his conservative religious upbringing, through the fear and courage of coming out, to the profound love he found with his partner Sheldon. It’s a story of joy and heartbreak—of planning a dream wedding that radiated love, while carrying the quiet ache of family who chose not to attend.But Mike’s story doesn’t end in loss. It unfolds into resilience, creativity, and a life fully claimed. From bold fashion statements at the Kentucky Derby to championing local businesses and curating unforgettable events, Mike embodies what it means to live unapologetically and authentically—even when it costs you something.This is more than an interview. It’s a story about finding home within yourself, redefining family, and daring to live a life that is true, beautiful, and entirely your own.Mike can be found on instagram: Mike_Tomes_SocialLotus and LunaUse promo code Fitzen at checkout for 20% off (sale items not included)Liforme Yoga MatsUse code FitZen at checkout for a discount!RageCreate | Affirmations|Oracles & moreThere are over 1 million of our affirmation cards floating around the world. Use Code FITZEN 20% ofPersonal Financial PlanningMoney mindsets for conscious living.Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showSign up for the FitZen Newsletter!Get your FREE Guide: FitZen to PrioritizeJoin the FitZen Revolution Waitlist!Instagram: thefitzenprojectWebsite: fitzenyoga.comMusic provided by: Purple Planet Music: https://www.purple-planet.com/homeFollow my Blog on Substack!💖 Love the Show? Help me Keep the Magic Going!If The FitZen Project has ever made you laugh, cry, or feel a little more connected—consider supporting the podcast!Your support helps me:Bring on more incredible guests Share powerful stories of healing, humor, and heartKeep the podcast ad-free and community-focused🎧 Become a supporter today and help me keep the soul in storytelling.Every dollar, share, and kind word means the world. Thank you for being part of the FitZen journey. 💫