Unforgiveness: Why Holding On Is Is Keeping You A Prisoner | Ep. 46

Most people think they've forgiven someone. Fewer have actually tested whether that's true.Rahul lays out the real physical cost of holding a grudge, from cardiovascular strain to sleep disruption to years of low-grade fatigue nobody connects back to the resentment causing it. Van is honest about her own habit of becoming a historian, replaying old offenses long after the moment has passed, including a story about a broken garage door that says more about grace than almost anything else in the episode.Together they get specific about the difference between saying you forgive someone and actually releasing them, why forgiveness has to be continuous rather than a single decision, and what it looks like to stop being the judge of a situation that was never yours to judge in the first place. There's a story from the cross that reframes what the purest form of forgiveness actually looks like.If there's someone you say you've forgiven but still can't quite let go of, this conversation is worth the time.Find us on Spotify @pillayplacepodcasthttps://open.spotify.com/show/6yDlDhEWsh21t2zeg7f5AC?si=B7-HfM0VR6SJuI2i7l4KdgYouTube: @pillayplacepodcast https://www.youtube.com/@PillayPlacePodcast