Why, What, How: A Calmer Way To Build Discipline

We tend to think of discipline as punishment, something you do to someone, or to yourself, when they get it wrong. This episode argues the opposite: at root, to discipline is to teach. Once you see it that way, both parenting and self-improvement start to look very different.I share a simple framework I use, the Why, What, How technique: work out why someone (including you) is behaving this way, decide what you actually want to teach, then find the calmest way to deliver it. I get into the difference between wanting to do something and forcing yourself to, and why the way I respond to my son turns out to be a decent model for handling difficult people generally. Calm, curiosity and a bit of distance do most of the work.The Stoic Scroll newsletter: stoicism.substack.com"No Drama Discipline" by Daniel Siegel and Tina Bryson: on AmazonFree 7-Day Stoic Challenge: stoicchallenge.coThe Stoic Vault: stoicvault.com