Valentines Day 2026: Dating While Mixed & Finding Your True Self with Gin Hammond

Are mixed-race women still being fetishized in dating — and what does it mean to date with radical authenticity? Gin Hammond gets real about blind matchmaking, the exhausting "what are you?" question, and why dating later in life hits completely different when you finally know who you are.Whether you're mixed, multiracial, or just done shrinking yourself to fit someone else's box — this one's for you.━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━⏱️ CHAPTERS━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━0:00 – Introduction: Gin is Living IncogNegro0:22 – Dating in your 40s: searching for a kindred spirit0:36 – How dating feels different when you've already built a life1:04 – What it means to be fully yourself with a partner1:49 – The blind matchmaking service with NO last names, NO photos2:28 – Why "the box of chocolates" dating approach works3:05 – When a date asked: "What are you?"3:41 – Mixed women, fetishization & being perceived as "exotic"4:20 – Do mixed men experience this too? Jin asks the audience4:46 – Closing reflection & call to continue the conversation━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━💬 IN THIS EPISODE━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━Gin opens up about using a blind matchmaking service where you don't learn the other person's name, race, profession, or even last name until an hour before the date. She reflects on what it's like to date without preconceptions — and without anyone doing "recon" on her first.But a question on one of those dates stopped her cold: "What are you?"Jin unpacks the fetishization that mixed-race women — and multiracial people broadly — often experience in dating and social spaces, and connects it to a conversation she had with a mixed woman in her 20s who was experiencing the exact same thing. The cycle hasn't broken.This episode is part of the Living IncogNegro series — raw, honest conversations about identity, race, belonging, and what it means to live authentically as a mixed-race person in America.━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━🌐 LEARN MORE & JOIN THE CONVERSATION━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━🎙️ Podcast + full episodes: https://www.LivingIncogNegro.com📲 Subscribe for new conversations every week👇 Drop your story in the comments — have YOU been asked "what are you?"━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━🔔 If this conversation made you think, hit LIKE & SUBSCRIBE so you never miss an episode of Living IncogNegro.━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.