Vibrators, ADHD & Sensory Overload: Finding Your Sweet Spot

Ever been mid masturbation and thought, “Why am I analyzing this toy like a product review instead of actually enjoying myself?” Or maybe the opposite, you’re left wondering if your clit is broken because nothing’s happening. In this episode of ADHD Realities, Dr. Leann Borneman dives into how vibrators interact with ADHD brains and sensory processing differences. From overstimulation (too sharp, too loud, too much) to understimulation (too mild, too boring, not enough), we’ll break down why these experiences happen, and what you can actually do about it. You’ll learn: The concept of sensory load shifting...why partner control changes the game, and how to recreate that effect when you’re solo. Practical strategies to dampen sensations when toys feel overwhelming. Creative ways to amp up sensations when toys aren’t hitting enough. How context like lighting, sound, hormones, stress, shapes your experience more than you think. Because vibrators aren’t broken, and neither are you. It’s all about finding the right settings for your brain and body. Check out Dr. B's Sensation Spectrum Toy Guide