WATCH WHAT YOU SAY

In this episode of Let’s Talk: Truth in Love, we tackle a subject that affects every relationship we have: the power of our words. Many of us grew up hearing the childhood rhyme, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” While well-intended, that saying simply isn't true. Words can wound deeply, sometimes leaving scars that last far longer than physical injuries.Drawing from James 3 and Ephesians 4, we examine what Scripture teaches about the tongue and the extraordinary influence our words have on our lives and the lives of others. James compares the tongue to a horse's bit and a ship's rudder—small things capable of steering something much larger. In the same way, our words can shape relationships, influence identities, and even alter the course of our lives.Doug and Jess discuss real-life examples from marriage counseling, family relationships, schools, workplaces, and friendships. Many people can still remember hurtful words spoken to them decades ago. Negative words from parents, teachers, peers, or loved ones often become deeply rooted beliefs about identity and self-worth. At the same time, Scripture reminds us that our words also affect us. Jesus taught that we will give an account for every careless word we speak.The Bible sets a remarkably high standard for our speech. We are called to speak the truth in love, avoiding corrupting talk of every kind—lies, slander, condemnation, mockery, belittling comments, divisive speech, threats, envy, hatred, and words that stir fear, anger, or distrust. Instead, we are to speak words that build others up and give grace to those who hear.This conversation also addresses the broader culture we live in today, where harsh rhetoric, social media attacks, and political division often reward the loudest and most damaging voices. Yet Jesus points us to a different way. He teaches that our words reveal the true condition of our hearts. A good tree bears good fruit, and a healthy heart produces life-giving speech.The good news is that while no one can perfectly tame the tongue on their own, God can help us. Through His Spirit, His Word, and intentional self-discipline, we can learn to pause, reflect, and allow His love to shape what comes out of our mouths. As the psalmist prayed, “Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips.”Our words matter. They can wound or heal, divide or unite, discourage or strengthen. As followers of Christ, we are called to use them to bless, encourage, and reflect the love of God.Looking for more? Dive deeper into the truth in love with these three insightful books:• Moon in the Darkness• Be with Jesus, Be like Jesus, Be for Jesus• Christ in Us is the Hope of GloryThese books are available in paperback, ebook, and audiobook formats. To learn more, visit:👉 www.friendsofthekingministries.orgWhile you're there, be sure to explore the many columns written for the Kingsport Times-News over the past eighteen years.God bless, and we look forward to having you join us for the next episode!