Water seeks its own level and so do daters, Ep 65

Send us Fan Mail Episode 65: Water Seeks Its Own Level, and So Do Daters You keep meeting men who can't quite meet you. Different faces, same ceiling. You're across the table from someone who runs out of depth right as you're ready to go deeper, and you start to wonder if the good ones are simply gone. Water seeks its own level. So do daters. The men who keep showing up tend to match the level you're currently able to receive from, not the size of the life you've built. Your worth was never the question here. What you're looking at is your current capacity, and capacity can grow. Raise your own level, your regulation, what you'll hold space for, what you'll no longer tolerate, and the water rises with you. A different kind of man comes into view and stays. In this episode: Why "there are no good men left" often means "I keep meeting men at one particular level" What your level actually is, and why it has nothing to do with how impressive your résumé is The quiet ways an accomplished woman keeps the water low without realizing it, every one of them protection rather than a flaw How raising your level changes who you notice, who you tolerate, and who stays The difference between settling and choosing from a full place A line worth saving: you will not out-strategize your own ceiling. Raise the level, and the pool changes. I know this because I did the work myself. After 41 years of dating, I placed one ad at 57 and married for the first time at 58. My life didn't get more impressive that year. My capacity to receive did. Happening this week: My free live class, Dating Safely and Scam-Free, is this Thursday, June 25, at 7 p.m. Central, live online. If you're dating in today's landscape, this is the one that keeps you safe while you stay open to love. Save your spot at dianebrandonmoody.com/safety. If this episode named something you're ready to change, that's exactly what a Love Audit is for. You can book yours at dianebrandonmoody.com/love-audit. A question to sit with, and to answer in a review if it landed: where in your dating life have you been trying to change the men instead of raising the water? Diane Brandon Moody is a dating coach for accomplished women over 50 and host of the Fiftysomething Love podcast. Her love story was featured in The New York Times. Want the matching social posts around this one next, or are you moving to the SI planning? Here's the new quiz, it's fun and funny and will let you know how ready you are for love - quiz.dianebrandonmoody.com. Sign up here for the Simply Irresistible Priority List! It's free and no obligation. https://www.dianebrandonmoody.com