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EPISODE · Nov 10, 2025 · 42 MIN

We Can All Do Better, Starting Today

from The Devil You Don’t Know · host Lindsay Oakes

Send us Fan MailWhen the world rewards outrage, choosing kindness feels like swimming upstream. We open the door to a different path—one built on safety, presence, and small, deliberate actions that ripple through relationships at home, at work, and online. Drawing on Arthur C. Brooks’s research on contempt, Terence Real’s three spheres of change, and Tara Brach’s insights on trauma and mindfulness, we unpack why so many of us feel stuck in anger and how to find our way back to connection.The conversation moves from daily life—traffic flare-ups, partner miscommunications, and those endless comment wars—to practical tools that actually help. We practice listening to understand rather than to win; we define a realistic sphere of influence so we stop doomscrolling and start doing; and we adopt both-and thinking to navigate complexity without going brittle or cynical. You’ll hear personal stories of repair, boundaries with media algorithms that profit from your rage, and the tiny, repeatable gestures that rebuild respect: a rinsed dish, a calm breath, a gentle check-in.This is not about pretending everything is fine. It’s about resourcing yourself so you can show up better today than yesterday. Five to ten minutes of stillness, empathy before advice, and forgiveness as a release rather than reunion—these become the muscle fibers of a kinder life. If you’re ready to trade hot takes for wise action, and contempt for warmth, this one will meet you where you are and invite you a step forward.If this resonates, follow and subscribe, share it with someone who could use a calmer day, and leave a review with one practice you’ll try this week. Your small actions might be the permission someone else needs to start.Please email us at [email protected]

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Send us Fan Mail When the world rewards outrage, choosing kindness feels like swimming upstream. We open the door to a different path—one built on safety, presence, and small, deliberate actions that ripple through relationships at home, at work, and online. Drawing on Arthur C. Brooks’s research on contempt, Terence Real’s three spheres of change, and Tara Brach’s insights on trauma and mindfulness, we unpack why so many of us feel stuck in anger and how to find our way back to connection. ...

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