We Fought So Hard We Flooded the House

In this episode of We Love Our Family… But Damn, we’re reflecting on a fight we didn’t see coming—one that happened right after the New Year, during a season when things were actually going well.The argument escalated enough that we didn’t realize the bathtub had been left running… until our house started flooding.Rather than replaying the fight itself, this conversation focuses on what the moment revealed about stress, nervous systems, and how conflict shows up when life is full—raising a toddler, running businesses, navigating home projects, and moving through hormonal and emotional cycles.We talk honestly about:Why growth in marriage isn’t linearHow stress and mental load quietly accumulateWhat was really happening beneath the argumentThe difference between rupture and failureHow we approached repair, and why it mattered more than the conflict itselfWhat this moment taught us about presence, awareness, and coming back togetherThis episode is for couples who:Love each other deeply but still fightAre navigating family life, work, and stress at the same timeWant to learn how to repair after conflict instead of avoiding itAre curious what “healthy repair” actually looks like in real lifeWe also share what’s ahead for us as we enter the Year of the Horse, including seasonal gatherings we’re planning this year—starting with a Chinese New Year dumpling-making event—and a course we’re preparing around couples and money, focused not just on logistics, but how money actually lives inside a relationship.If you’re listening to this in the middle of your own hard moment, this conversation is a reminder:nothing has gone wrong.Topics CoveredMarriage conflict and repairStress and nervous system regulation in relationshipsNonlinear growth in long-term partnershipMental load, parenting, and emotional bandwidthRepair after a fightCommunication during high-stress seasonsCouples, money, and shared decision-makingRitual, seasons, and intentional family lifeStay ConnectedIf these conversations resonate with you—about marriage, family, stress, and building a life together—stay subscribed.We’ll be sharing more soon. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bykristenlee.substack.com