We Hit Every Goal. Still Not Happy. Here's Why.

You got the job. You hit the number. You built the life. And somewhere in the middle of all of it, you started wondering why you still feel tired, restless, or quietly empty.Turns out, that's not a personal failure. That's your brain doing exactly what it was designed to do.This week Lisa Wilson and Lisa Smith went down a happiness rabbit hole and found Yale professor Laurie Santos — whose class on the science of happiness is the most popular in Yale's history (and free online). What they discovered stopped her cold: our brains were not designed to choose happiness. They were designed to survive. And somewhere along the way, a lot of us confused productivity with happiness — and have been on the treadmill ever since.This week we get into:The happiness treadmill — why your brain keeps moving the goalposts no matter what you achieveWere we raised to earn happiness rather than just feel it?Why stillness feels uncomfortable — and what that says about how we grew upTwo Netflix shows proving we're not always great at choosing what's good for usThe Southern Ladies Council on Appropriateness and Manners — and why every woman needs a group that tells her the truthWhat did you think would make you happy — that didn't?New Here? High Five Hot Mess is a comfort-comedy podcast for everyone looking for a high five in this hot mess world. Two real friends with zero guru energy. Honest conversation and a lot of "wait, me too." Drop us a review if this episode felt like it was written for you — it genuinely helps people find us. Let's hang out!Find us:•       YouTube: @highfivehotmess•       Instagram: @highfivehotmess•       Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/high-five-hot-mess-podcast/id1883400763•       Spotify: open.spotify.com/episode/1FJGMijJvEVb6TfE7p8KpG•       TikTok: @highfivehotmesspod•       Website: highfivehotmesspod.com