We Let ChatGPT Ask the Hard Questions (Ep. 13)

Summary: In this episode, Robert and Shelly try something completely new: letting ChatGPT, loaded with content from their previous episodes, ask them questions that married couples really want answered. No notes, no preparation, just honest conversation.Topics Covered:1. Beliefs About Marriage We Had Completely WrongShelly opens with sex — specifically how they both grew up in environments where it was taboo, never discussed, and surrounded by rigid, unhelpful beliefs. Robert shares how he assumed marriage meant constant intimacy, and how that expectation went unaddressed. Key takeaway: the absence of honest premarital education leaves couples to figure things out on their own — and not everyone does.2. "I Love My Spouse, But I Don't Like Them Right Now"Is this a moment, or a season? Robert and Shelly explore the difference between a difficult season and a deteriorating marriage. They introduce their "freight train" analogy — the initial love that pulls the relationship eventually needs something pushing from behind too. Bottom line: keep inviting each other in, and don't let unaddressed feelings fester into resentment.3. What the Church Gets Right (and Wrong) About MarriageThe church values marriage — but too often teaches it one-sidedly, focusing on wifely submission while largely ignoring the husband's call to sacrificial love. Robert puts it bluntly: show him a husband who dies to himself daily, and he'll show you a wife with no problem submitting. They also highlight how co-teaching by couples (like their mentors Ty and Terri Schinzel) is far more effective than the typical solo male speaker model.4. Marriage Problems vs. Individual Maturity ProblemsMore often than not, marriage problems are individual immaturity problems showing up in the relationship. You can't fix your spouse — you can only work on yourself, pray for them, and stay in your own lane. Robert asks a provocative question: what's your number two sin? The one you're not even looking at while you're focused on your spouse's?5. The Sex Question Couples Are Afraid to AskSpoiler: it's "how often?" — but Robert and Shelly push back on the obsession with frequency. The better conversation is about desire types, not numbers. And if you're looking for a stat to pressure your spouse with... that's a different problem.6. What to Warn Every Engaged CoupleRobert says: unmet expectations. They may be more destructive to marriages than adultery, substance abuse, or sexual addiction — because they quietly build resentment over time. Shelly adds: tone. How you speak to each other matters as much as what you say.7. What's Changed About Their ParentingShelly: she used to prioritize outward behavior and appearances over her kids' hearts. Now she focuses on the heart first — even if that meant a "waiter phase" along the way. Robert: he used to think authority required volume and size. He's learned that true authority is quiet — like God in the still, small voice.8. The Biggest Threat to Marriage Nobody's Talking AboutTheir answer: over-scheduled kids. Sports, activities, clubs — the busyness culture is robbing families of stillness, connection, and the hard conversations that actually strengthen marriages. You have the right to say no. The best thing you can do for your kids is love your spouse well — and point them to Jesus.Contact & Questions:Send your questions (anonymously) to: [email protected] and Shelly welcome pushback, follow-up questions, and real conversations.Ask a questionSupport the showSubmit your own question: [email protected]