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So you're not chef and warrior G.D. Rance? Right, everybody do. It's about being spit off.
Right. Can I be somebody else? What are we doing? Can I still be wet with whiteboards?
I can't even stop at the back. I can't even stop at the back. I can't even stop at the back. You're not broken to deal with the hotel.
Right. You're not broken to deal with the hotel. Right. The G Brad, Lacker, the G Brad Rance studio.
And then you can sell the rights to Chef for like $5.00. You can't use it no more. I should own by the way and give him something. It is a lot less going on than you can.
Right. You don't bother that one. I'm in. Whoa, the white voice, what up?
I thought it was a no-sad slumber. Boy, there's a joke. Catch money as an army. But he got a need.
Sorry. I said reaction line about it. Oh, right. What?
Everybody out there would just hit a hard button. I can't believe it. Shit. It's actually.
I'm on the desk. I know it's being bad. I thought we were trying to sleep on. I think I thought it was a TikTok.
Yes, yes, yes. Thank you for the glizzy. Cool. All right.
I'm glad everybody brings me to the West. I've been fine with y'all. I've been fine with y'all. I've been fine with y'all.
I've been fine with y'all. I've been fine with y'all. I've been fine with y'all. I think I think I'll leave BGL on.
How about that? You know what I'm saying? BGL, stop giggling and looking bashful on National Television. That's first of all.
Hey, man. Hey, man. I think I'm going to lock it up. People definitely make up in that neck.
It's kind of funny because it's like BGL is killing a bit. It's kind of like playing over them. It's kind of wild. But I'm happy for him.
I'm excited. He finally got out for real. I know much time he's going to float it about. Hopefully he's going to make some good music.
Well, he was happy about his hair being dead. Is that what it was? Was that what it was portrayed as? I mean, it was very.
He was glowing about his hair. Well, okay. There's several people. I mean, there's several like memes that's going around.
I don't take his eye on that same event. So, when he first came out there, he was smiling. Motherfucker was on his teeth. So now, when he smiles, I think the fact that he's not showing his head down and is smiling without his teeth, which made him look as people on the internet saying, sassy and spicy, whatever you want to say, man, feminine.
And then they had long hair. He got his hair done. And then people saw him out his hair. He got his braids done.
And it was a chicken like, yo, what you got? You know what I'm saying? So, it was a comedy of errors or the perfect so on. I don't know.
I don't know if it's errors though, man. I think it's just, I think we all look this way when we receive too much praise. Like, does anybody ever praise you about something like all at once? And you like smile, but it's not like a cool smile.
Like, you feel good about it, but you look goofy as well. Because like, you feel good about it. Because like, everybody's like, oh, you're shit about your shoes or whatever it is. You look just like, you look.
You know what I'm saying? Like, we've all looked that way. But typically you like, if you feel that way, if you get a little hormone fuzzier, because you're not going to dig that way, you're going to like turn the other direction and go get your shit together and come back. If you feel that way, if you feel horrible, then stop.
If you feel good about yourself, you can't let people see that. You can't let people see that. You can't let people see that. You can't let people see that.
You can't let people see that. Which I think like, this big had been locked up with killers for the last decade. That's a whole other thing. So he's going to have to hold something as well?
No, no, no. I think you just, I don't know what's going to be happy. No, no, that's not my thing. That's not my thing.
That's the biggest happy. I think then it's just socially awkward now. You know what I'm saying? Like, you don't know what to smile at?
What? You don't know how to act? This is a whole new world. You know, 2023, you can't see something.
That's gay. Right. He grew up in the time, but when he was out and popping, it was pocketing too. So he wasn't smiling too much.
He was like, yeah. That's not something. Yeah. The heroin, the heroin, dude.
See? So hopefully, hopefully he gets out. I mean, I guess hopefully while he's out, man, he gets some help. I mean, we really haven't heard a lot from him.
We just need kind of like screenshots of people who play sound with him. So maybe they might put him in some rehab. Get some meat on his bones as they say. You know, hopefully get out here eating good.
And everybody keep their fingers crossed for a cash money reunion tour. We'll be able to go back to the rabbit's studio. Let's leave you where we remember you as. I'm fine with him.
I'm bracketing those. I can't remember those. Because we can make it out of the floor. He went to jail.
There's nobody listening to the meat. And I was like one or two listens. So, you know, maybe get that food. So, I'm pretty stressed to be cheap.
Man, live with good life. It's my own. You can get off the drugs and clean up. He's probably off the drugs.
I'm pretty sure he's off the drugs. We just need to kind of drug that out. I think all of them. But they got a dentist in prison.
I don't know why I just need to fuck that one. They got some legit, I don't know if it's federal, but they got some legit dentist that work in prison. I knew a motherfucker was like, man, you get to a gig of the prison as a dentist like you're going to eat. And all of them might come from the state or federal or whatever.
We got a huge contract with the prison. Yeah. Hey, Danny. Hey, Danny.
Sorry, man. My whole world, I'm from Atlanta, from New Orleans. Shut up the Brookhaven, Dennell, Atlanta. You see, I think it's deep.
I don't know. I think I don't know. If I'm cold, you're wrong. I know you're going to present it.
But we got an Atlanta, and you graduate. Brookhaven, Dennell. Oh, good. Wait, Brookhaven, Dennell.
Well, didn't Brookhaven, don't they got it full up to? Is that the same people? I don't know. I'm not saying my whole world did.
Oh, my bad. I'm thinking about PT. I'm thinking about it. I'm thinking about it.
PT got it full up. PT got it full up. I'm thinking about Brookhaven. Yeah, that's all right.
Okay. No, no relation? No, not that. No.
You can pop up in this slide and get you a cleanne in the bag, right in the bag. That's not a bad situation. Okay. I'll be doing a big.
I'm trying to get my daughter. You know, I have a great. I have a great. I'm going to go to Shiklets and get the big T's.
Hopefully for me, yeah. I'm going to need them. You want the big T? Oh, yeah.
Like I'm like 50. 50. You know. Right, see what?
On the system. On the half of big shades and the silk ones. On the whole cadence. I'll make them teach stronger.
No, you have to be very proud of these. Because I don't want to have them. Fix it in. Fix it in.
Need to be a little stronger. Like the corn on the cob. What? Oh, hey, hey, hey.
Oh, because of the fella shake. Hey, now that's not a good corn on the cob. You said I like a good corn on the cob. It's coming.
Good. It's going to be very good. It's going to be exactly. Um, that was Jan Peck's show for you there, guys.
The VMAs, VMAs came out yesterday. Um, I watched VMAs, you all watched VMAs yesterday. Oh, I see any clips. You saw clips just got it.
So I watched these as a lark, if you will, because I was like, you know, I'm just complaining out there. You'd be sad. You'd be editable to every baby to keep everything straight. So the VMAs is on four different channels, which is sick.
But anyway, so you gotta tell your daughter what to watch. When I got to it, they were going through the, they were giving the work the best scene and five of the, four of the five, nine of them, you get K-pop groups. Now I've heard K-pop is the concept, but then watching it like in reality, like seeing close to the video, like, is there like, is there like, is there like, my thing is like, so in general I would say, after watching the, with the inmates, I watched it for like, probably still secured it her little Vanguard performance, I guess it was like the Vanguard as a year or whatever. I stopped after that, like I like to secure it.
Music is really bad guys. And almost, it is my point in the, in the, in the, in the, you know, you're playing the audience, it's a little racist. Like, I was like, the best R&B group, it was like Afro-Bees artists and those you can't. I don't think that's, I don't think that's the basis at all.
I think, I think Afro-Bees is closer to what we think R&B is than what R&B is right now. But it's not R&B though. Different genres, what they do. It's very R&B-ish.
But did you, did you hear what, what they say about it? No, they say it's other. Yeah, I think what you say about it. I don't know what I just said.
You said that, that Afro-Bees is closer to the R&B that we know. Yes, yeah. As for this, the R&B that's out, that they call it R&B stuff. R&B that's out now is more to sing songs you rap using, at least in the mail genre, in the mail.
Yeah. No, they weren't even, I think only the song they, Chris Brown, Chris Brown was like the only big artist that was nominated. It was SZA, SZA was kind of like, pop-y-rock music. They had three Afro-Bees artists.
Like Tim Stem's one of them all. Yeah, they had people I've never heard of, this was also strange. I mean, I don't think so, but what? What?
Yeah, just in general, like they had like little rancid girls out there, they had a little thing. Succetana. I don't know what sex that is. Sexit, right?
Yeah, Vicarias. Sexit red is an R&B category? No, no, no, no, no, don't tell anyone. I'll pass that.
Oh, anyway, Nick, I had questions. What? No, no, but they were there. I mean, Nick, Nick, Nick, Nick, Nick, Nick, Nick, Nick, Nick, Nick, Nick, Nick, Nick, Nick, Nick, and I had, we call it, Nick, Johnny Hardy B and Megan Salud.
You know what that is. I'm a fan of them. That was cool. Oh, yeah, he's going to like pay it all.
We are getting to a point where we are going to jump the shark on hip hop. I'm not saying hip hop is going to go away. But I think hip hop is going to be going to continue to be so much of a menstrual show that it's like, I can't pay attention to this. It's like, we're at the sexy red point right now.
In sexy red, there's nothing wrong with sexy red. The sexy red is the world, we're always at a subcategory that you're kind of, if I want to hear this, I can go and access that and come back and then go listen to big epoch or whatever, right? They weren't the mainstream artists, but now you have the sexy reds being the mainstream artists. It's like, this is what, from a pop sample, that is what hip hop is.
And I think we're starting to jump the shark on it because it's just not appealing as appealing across the world as it is just from a pop sample. I think it's great. I think it's poppin', I think it's snappy. I think it's catchy.
Whenever, but it's not blasting music. You're not here at Old East Station in 30 years and we're gonna listen to my boot goin' around. I just don't see that. I mean, the young kids don't like their own music now either, if you want to be honest.
That's why they're always Instagramming and whatever the quote, snap face doing all that shit in the club. You don't say they don't dance with each other so they're not getting these, one of those type of memories, not core memories. That what it is. The word, huh?
Is that core memories? You're a psych two day. I just went Anyway, but I mean, you know, you can kind of remember like we listen to go to see and slow drag in and love the what's on April 19th You had a jersey and fucking Nelly came hot in here came on the web like 3LMA brought neck had a ass on a boy And I don't think they're having these moments with this music right and in New Orleans and I've seen in a couple different other places Majority of the popular nights are R&B nights, right? So the young kids going to the clubs and listen to fucking Keisha cold and Joe to see and all that other shit like They're not even in it for a rapper.
That's not even like a good time for them. So yeah, I mean And go back to what was it? Where are the popular male rappers like all wrapped right now? It's part of the Meg's Alian and in a ratchet girls like you know, little rhythm for nigga free like You don't even want to see any girls and I'm not saying I don't fuck with these songs like these songs are like they're catchy songs They're straight songs in certain moments very small amounts of moments, but it's like we're the bad Where's the balance and I think it's opening up music for genres or subgenres?
I don't know what Afro pop or Afro beats is I think it's Afro pop. I'm not sure but I think that's why they're able to lead through and honestly and surely I think this is right Yeah, I'm gonna be doing myself gonna agree with me. Let's see some Nashville I think it's right for country to actually become more mainstream outside of white, you know, southern, you know Ariene because there are a lot more black people getting in the country and I'm not talking about like Blues black or you're like young black people are getting in the country on some pop shit And I think it's right for country to come in and having more mainstream Non non-white blue collar, you know, I'm saying sort of presence because it's just country is gonna feel it can and it will feel that Blues a slash are in no void that we don't really have feel right now Right, there's a big It's been a big movement and black people in country for like the last two three years. There's one guy named Braylon He's been accepted into like for real country country music singing at the Rhyme and auditorium I don't know that I'm gonna make it but the naturalist is going to talk about And they're getting accepted in these in country and they're making money and it's more authentic And you get more and it's more longevity and and Man, all country is docile with a banjo.
You know what I'm saying? Hey, they tell the same stories of R&B It's just something different and if you get somebody that looks like you and it's telling you the same story and saying they're looking face off Yeah, you don't give them a try. So, yeah, it's would be under you before your time man This black country music actually have a thing to it. I can't think of it right now I'm in Google like who else is big in country man?
Like I it's also because I can listen to them and call my kids and I don't need clean use to listen to my kids But I would prefer it so that we can all like vibe together and simply it's always gonna be more music heavy instead of like Blue-hole Brown. I'll be looking for that stuff man. I found so many artists. Um the cat king Jerome I love that motherfucker.
He's like a hip-hop slash country type of situation, but Give me more that shit. I'm ready to go to national now. I want some boots Or a national to this booth. I want to go like what do you know thing?
So you think it's a big deal to make a man show about boots and we just walk around with boots on I mean I don't care what y'all do tell me what y'all do and I want to come and do that I So I'm with it. I you're African so y'all chicken on how did an African so I'm ready to go We doing it with all your respect all the residents of respect County J Joe is taking us all the national on a field trip I want to go I want to go to I do want to go to the national so we don't say that I mean the big John is a right to grow up is that good about for us as a culture I don't think it's us anymore. It's not me right now. We are looking at ourselves outside of our body Like I don't we grew up in the golden era of hip-hop So we don't even recognize what the fuck is going on right now Like we're looking into the email like like little brown about how do you feel about we go around?
Okay, you don't vote in you are cool just so we're in sync like we're watching this shit It's a trainers left the station the engineer has jumped out the fucking window The shit is uncontrollable and we're all just seeing where it takes us. It's not Like what label is we hold brown on? You used to know like oh, you know that nigga bad boy this mother fuck over here's defro this motherfucker here's rap a lot Like you knew where everybody was from the hip-hop standpoint. We go brand I don't know a little sweetie's on sweetie's sweetie's I don't know what label they're on It's just they're just out here make it's doing shit And we're watching like we're slaves to our own movie.
It's our own moment. You know saying like it's just wow It's not us. I don't consider this us. What was the movie was the CD for we've been doing the cows the dudes in the cow thing I'm about to rock.
Yeah, what was the move the dudes who was the parody with the cows and shit? It's like that like it's we're watching in a movie right now. I think you make them two different movies. How about I'll grab it I'll grab it down.
Yes. What was that? Was okay was like that type of shit, you know, I'm saying like it's not it's not real This is this isn't even hip-hop. Yeah, it feels like a caricature I mean I'm saying it's a month that I believe sexy and both of the girl Suki Suki on or the ops who you keep saying Suki on who to fight?
What was this looking at a scene? She does a song with rep to sing after sing it. No, I refuse any couple bars. No, no, no How you suppose to get?
Sounds Asian sounds like a real house A J and a I Sounds like it sounds like a song that they were working on hustle and flow but like it wasn't really like the main score or like I can't put this in the movie. Yeah, like no, it ever do this. Oh, it's I This point I know we're happy that hip-hop is most powerful most popular music in the world But he's gonna throw up. It's not a break.
It needs to take a break Wow And I get it, you know, there's no money in it. There's money in going viral. I don't even need you to be an artist Like it wasn't like juvenile was motherfucking method man. We know saying like No, but I mean the album was still brilliant even though it was You know what I'm saying?
It was retching New Orleans rap, but at least it was Somebody put effort into that shit and made an album and it became a booty-hole brown is not doing that, you know They're like we don't need a whole lot of effort here, but he's mother budget literally does mumbling screaming on a track And she's talking about how they do just robbed somebody and it gave a 50 dollars And that was the most romantic concert had this girl Bob people Bob. They're trying to Let's Reset, I'm an honest intro bring boy bands back. I get this point of time. I'll take anything bring in sync whatever back That's what we talked about K-pop already.
That's why I put K-pop is so far the popular right now These motherfuckers can relate. I don't know how you're leaving it shit I didn't know if I was too late and it sits somewhat. I don't know what the fuck is going I don't know we go brown don't make no system you bro All right, so do you know you're gonna go brown okay, but or country This because we know Brown is appealing to a large group of somebody right? We all like round we hold I don't think that's about the wrapping that Eighteen to twenty five year old are they identify with people around like are they Yes, yes, they love yes, they're trying to be yes They will be baby.
Yes, they're gonna be a rapper baby mama's yes Yes, because they all play How they can feel about it is too close to ski week from up. They were so happy do you think? What do you say ski? Yeah, man, but so it was going crazy.
I was like let me get out of my hand Yeah, man, but I think that I think this is a my product of people Not wanting to work like it's really just all scammer music They don't want to work they want a scammer that what my baby dad they want like they just won't like niggas who ain't They should make us with scamming and you know spending all their money on fucking lamb chops and Champagne and pointed out and VIP like this is a life. I guess that they're aspiring to to live and I think that's because from children Nowadays, they don't want to fucking work with you. They don't they want easy money. Easy good time I don't know I think it's about other than like oh, yeah, that sounds like fun cuz if and what I've seen on a lot of It's like no disrespect because it's what these kids are seatouts.
You can't say no disrespect when my daughter is special Oh, no, I'm sorry with all the respect When I saw y'all kids going out from like the first day of school I probably say 40% of them under what they want to be with they grow up it was influencer and that just kind of shows you You know where we are as a society You know saying like if I was a kid and I saw somebody playing with Legos and then getting $1,000 a day playing lego. Oh, yeah, it was a does sound like a sweet game better than the firefighter I got a fucking risk my life and you know saying right all that shit Fucking week Later Good as involved all right, let's do that. Mm-hmm Firefire straight though I know the dude I grew up with a bag of fire fire in the firefighter It's almost like being a policeman without a negative shit And so I say it's like a lot of chili and like oh, you know kick it which one niggas like I mean y'all are basically a lot of you go kick it which on niggas at the frat at the frat house You know say you know you go do you look there you go hop on the motherfucking truck the other truck in there before you Like oh shit y'all got your performing in your arm go back to the crib and play some fucking mad like you hear back It is what it is I Know no no no she's still like the firefighters you just got away a little bit later and said you realize we're Doing a bit of it's where the money is at Well, you bought into something at what age You let's say men and women realize like oh shit Benefits I need those I need a real job It's a life thing I think women realize it when they understand their ugly Not their ugly, but what what level of you are you more? Because it's like when you realize your number I'm gonna say you understand what your number natural projection what you think about You dream at night which one number is what your actual number is I got skill for one to go Yeah, you're one to ten and then you like damn she'd be like I'm a six And do you realize what your what your pay rate is and what the scale is for that?
It's like kind of the high end for a six might be might be a UPS driver Low end low end is I don't know what was low end work at the steel mill you know I'm saying so like She kind of in that range. She like damn firefighter got full benefits this motherfucker like people be relatively in shape He gonna get a pension. He's gonna drive a like he gonna drive a Camaro a fucking a charger or something as you good So we also got to quantify is this small town Redman town high schoolers is like big city I think big cities a little different it's gonna be a little later big cities go happen around It's gonna happen a little bit closer to late 20s early 30s. Oh you're giving that way too much.
I'm no I'm 35 on the young I believe 45 is when something when they're not gonna go up I can see that up. I can see that up. I think small town is much sooner though Like I think small town Like you know that especially if like that's like the industry like like take like my wife's used more for whatever And they call them both boys and shit like that and they know I need to get a bull boy Like towns like that and you know the progression I think it happens a lot So I think a lot of us are in big cities and national and as and shit like that like you said it might happen a lot later The mirages right yeah, and I guess we can't only fans are well I don't know I think only fans your way out of anything. You just gotta be committed.
I only fast life is Hey boy, you gotta do it all brown that There are like I've been known to dibble them down on the fence and Like you know you go to Chicago you like damn shame gotta do this There's a lot of there's a lot of damn shame gotta do this is out there on the only fence university Exactly, but we talk about now. I'm 35. I gotta do this Talk about that so I mean so I think that's why at 35 you like women be like into fitness like real fucking tough They got a squeeze that juice on their limit, you know say to 35 Gravity and I'm physics I'm gonna get up there with eight others with wisdom. Sorry.
I don't even ask my fuck. I mean that's what I'm here for But we're talking more about you talking more about women in our generation I think it's different from younger women. I don't think we're gonna reach that Ever now you know everybody no I think Relationships and long-term relationships is back off We can come with something but people always are gonna want companion here door this yeah, but nothing long time now the concept of long-term relationships may not off but The concept of being where your brain is buttered is not down at all like women are the when it comes to survival They think men are better women are much better survival than men and women understand how to attach themselves to the man Whether it's romantic or not or transactional or not that is gonna give them the best chance of survival and certainly their kids And when they see firefighters people in the military shit like no I'm gonna focus on military you say she wants to go how much they get paid they keep in the woman keeps them Yeah How much do you have that benefits play into it? I can't notice anything.
I never thought about it on this series Like it depends on where you're from like if you're from a place where you don't have shit benefits are huge You've been a bad healthcare like I'm able to go here and get my teeth fixed get cleanings like talk talk to a actual doctor Not the motherfucker to urgent care like an actual doctor. That's a big or somebody who's never had that us We're a little different we've been to a hd we've got four-year degrees And we know all these people that are doing all these great things. That's not big shit to us You know say so we're a little bit different, but we're also in the minority We're the talented whenever the fraction is not a tenth eighth whenever the fuck it is Tell it's a gram whatever the fuck it is. That's us, but we're not the majority of motherfuckers do not have health care, right?
Amen you bumped into something that I'd say it again just cuz talking about when I'm attaching myself as a survival tactic And that's why I always say that when men get the most man get married they're doing it for love But you can see some couples where women are marrying a nigga for stability for survival And I mean it's obvious you know what I'm saying and sometimes it's not obvious and then there's a negative thing They're gonna really doesn't and she just there cuz she don't work no more Yeah, you can argue and think about it is the comments about men married more for the right reason than honestly I don't care. I think that's perfectly fun I think as a society we need to keep it on and be like you know what if we're gonna have a transact relationship And you don't have to love me you just like me a lot or whatever for this That's not what but that's not what they give it all that's what I'm saying the niggas are anything like this he loves my dirty Girl, but that's but this is what niggas and women are not being real with it We are at that precipice in the maturation of our society in 2023 the shit between middle women where we have to we have enough flexibility so where we can have a better understanding of how we Relate to each other like we all go into this shit hoping this is the love of my life. This is my soulmate That's not that's not the majority of situations, you know saying like it's really not and I think because we go into marriages Or long-term relationships or situation whatever it is with that soulmate or in love of my life like Requirement that's why shit fucks up because like you're not that nigga. You're not my soul You're not in my life So I can't be married to you just like just because you're not that doesn't mean That relationship is not good.
It's not sound or it's not gonna work because a lot of this shit You may start off as soul mates and not end up ultimately as soul mates because people grow people change But that's okay, you can still be married you got to have that fucking little and unicorn shit in your mind Oh, you don't get your dick's up at work. That's just what it is like. You can't have you can't go in Try to act you know like you know what and we good together. We can probably write a kid together Because I mean and J.
No, I agree with that But honestly, that's also another thing we need to think about maybe him getting the executive workers I'm a good Big boy ain't so bad. Whoop. I don't like the verbiage So here's the thing it's bad because we just talk about the life side in this relationship if this Is all in like I love you. I love you down to the draws, right?
But she's in it for the survival of it. We're just a good fit. We're good with the money We look good to each other. We make pretty kids So her Get her dicks up is not that bad, right?
But to him is gonna be a problem because he loves her down to the draws. You know say that's yeah, that's it That's a lot of sighted fit. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, maybe if it's not so not so lopsided like we're both in this for the fit You know what I'm saying?
We work. We can probably die together. We're gonna be straight But maybe maybe on on our birthday we can both get out the excitement. We'll be straight Personally Going deeper into the conversation about I know that I thought one of those posted a video about Infinency and then how we lack it because we can get into the seat home You know I got a video for oh wow what you need to have that cute up.
I'm glad we talked about that pre-show my man. Appreciate that What does that mean? It's not a sausage made Right, I'm pulling it up right now. Talk about yourselves.
All right You know my other than the other than right now. Oh, I gotta scan the clad Dropping jewels I drop See that everywhere like regular search proud of the rest That's okay She should be proud of that like that was the more important part of it the constant the word she's saying So look at that Instagram one thing I hate on Instagram is that nigga that does the Denzel Washington impression? Yeah, I love posting that nigga like that shit was funny the first 17 times, but it's like Orderful walk-by-house. Yeah, if Denzel was Wrapping we hold brown like hey, man I Because they have been told and I believe that the only piece that they can receive Physicency is in sex which is why they seek it in ways that can eventually lead to the really healthier danger for themselves and for everybody It is is wrong talk about this.
That's it because I posted this little humorous joke of me and my girlfriend having some It's gonna see and it's man thinking over dating and the sum of man that are coming upset upset This one comes down to y'all have such a few perception of physical touch the body physical intimacy and complete it with romance and sexuality Cuz we raise our boys down and that they can't cry they can't get coddling comfort if they cry they can't Kisses and hugs growing up without seeing a daddy's crying daddy's not hugging you kissing you because a toxic masculinity and home of Only on head on the city don't be afraid to be affectionate to boys because that can be seen as gay So you grow up lacking physical intimacy and all these relationships except sexual ones because that's where you can get us the only Things you can get it and not only that you're told you deserve it there Which brings us to the unhealthy dangerous ways that you'll be seeking sex and this way because I thought that's why I Gotta want to hug but then you end up having empty learned lines type of sex It's dangerous is when you believe that you're deserving of sex And that's the only place you get this but intimacy so you look at everyone else's body as if it's yours to own because you're so Touch deprived and that's why something else struggles consent because you're like well It's only to me society tells me that I deserve this and I want to know you don't you don't deserve this is it Oh to you, but they're like a house I get physical intimacy Maybe hug your bro hug your bro coddling crying his arms Let me try saying that Barbara your knees are touching your home boy And having a boy's night and not meaning anything because somebody y'all just want to hug you want to hug But you think you can only see any type of physical intimacy inside That's why you're slinging around your thing like a weapon of mass destruction We can have it on the world on yourselves and everybody else and the projecting you see women are able to have close Plots on it So I'm sorry guys, so I'm gonna confess the first time that the video is posted I was too long ago No, I was so where she said he was this and that was you know long fells long no I was wrong I was into the video. I was kind of can I agree with her completely this time I'm with the video don't anything at all just your work completely disagree I think that this happened a lot of But Men are are described paying a very very broad brush. I could say very safely pretty confidently I don't think it's just me I have no problem so much on both of them don't mind tugging up my hands Don't mind any of that. I mean the example she gave she had her thighs and they're locked in her home girl I'm not gonna do that.
It's just weird I could say to say my circle out. There's no problem saying I love you. They just keep it on the forehead. It's fine No, no, don't don't don't don't just think me.
It's fine. I'm not going to throw you but damn let me tell my story out of it I'm just saying I guess it's not I'm safe. I could confidently say in the circle of friends I have and that will make my relationship so important. This is not an issue like I don't have the question and I would say that her her assertion is wrong.
Maybe dealing with someone like you so judgmental Have to take you home because you are you are annoying like that's why you got to say about Pay attention what you're saying kind of or maybe you agree with some bullshit, which I just need Very wrong. You're a star. Do not recommend what I am. I was out of the coin I usually I usually don't agree with But I agree with her 100% I mean you mentioned J.
Joe, but we all would mention J. Joe Just that's just who he is and he's one of the most authentic people we know But we don't have many other people who we would describe to do that other than J. Joe I try to look at I try to look at relationships that other women have or my wife have for other women and they would like Their friends would come over and they'd lay in the bed together and like a gigo and talk about jokes and shit like that That is a form of intimacy, right? It's not romantic.
It's not anything crazy But it's a form of intimacy that they have outside of romance and that they have out of sexuality, right? We don't have it like It right now in this conversation for me to even say You know like I couldn't not I couldn't lay in the big one of y'all not that I would want to do that I got to give a disclaimer before I even say this shit You know I'm saying to describe how we don't lay in the bed together not that I want to do that I still got to give this one because men don't do that like We've been we've been at fucking dinner. Tell me you haven't been a dinner with a nigga and your knees actually I'm living on my bed though. Like tell me you haven't done it.
You know I'm saying like men don't have in a significant amount or significant portion intimacy outside of relationships that we have sexually and Even we asked the question a lot of times like can you have a platonic relationship with a female? I can I feel like I'm I'm intelligent enough to have that relationship. I have many female friends But there are many men I would say most men cannot have a platonic relationship platonic platonic not from time Platona relationship with a woman Has to end in sex or else what was the point of having it you know I'm like that's just how we're built and we're not the most toxic motherfucker that there are we have to account for the entire Diaspora dies for up wherever the bucket is of men and we just don't have that intimacy We're based on how society has built us in this not 21st century, but this 20th century and 19th century makeup We're really quick to deal with the way intimacy is set up in 2012 We would we just really quit we don't have the flexibility to do that. I Would so so I agree with a message she was trying to portray not necessarily Harry First off you got to talk about the titties first what do you thought?
So I Grew what she was saying, but not necessarily that is empty gave like I don't want anybody me rubbing on my and the rest are So that's not enough agree with but Intimacy shows itself in different ways. So like some people doubt some people like that and bringing in for whatever that's a form of intimacy Sharing something with your boy. That's not necessarily public now It's like hey, man, you know, this was going on me whatever opening up that's a form of intimacy So I think that people show it and it's like they're trying to say Physical touch like they're trying to keep more physical touch base But it's more to it in it like and around about ways you just came like one level up from say it's like because everything's still involved like touching So yeah, so I agree with that's it's like I mean like I've ever seen indian niggas walking Like to only move that always with whole hands and like walk to the ice cream shop I Think of each other I mean that's just a cultural thing that we have our own things that we can talk about what are we doing culturally? We're gonna miss starts early in age right you go to a booty-ator you don't say you'll make it you always put a seat between yep, right now we talk about you It Another boy like you put a seat in we go if it makes it's this It's just some shit every talk and a lot of that does come from what you don't see So I'm not saying I think anything on here like had a good relationship with the father You know what I'm saying, but you know most guys and I know dad's having a good hug kiss So that's just not how they were raised so I mean we just work on it real toxic ass Anything make you get cry make you gay When with all them do that shit be gay Y'all think the list Choir church don't do that It's my cause they scared what people say it's just one of those I agree with her I think that a lot of men only get Physical intimacy right we have other people see like that That's why physical intimacy only you only get that from it's a difficult Oh, you mentioned with you know what I'm saying like if we're always like yeah big of my neck hurt They could be a whole chiropractor.
They're not like the size is making neck. You know what I'm saying? It's just how we were raised You can't even tell you make it look good. You know, right like You can't you have to you have to talk negatively about him in order to know that you're talking positively about it Oh Just take it back here right now to be there right?
Right When you said My first reaction be like man, I be drunk though So that don't you know saying like you always gonna get back at this clay because you scared it would like make him feel safe But it should be that way I don't see it that way. I just never thought about it Like you know saying like I'm getting in for you. I don't need it. Well, like no, I'm gonna do it right It was cool.
I worry about it I'm right so I think I think because I've realized that's No, I tell Nick I love him all the time. You know what I'm saying? This shit like that now, you know, I'm there cuz Like I'm supposed to cure my sexuality. They got me.
You know what I'm saying? Nick is being a bear running out like jump on the bed. I'm like what shit, you know, I'm saying not like complimented But it's yeah, I had to do the same or you don't say like that's Yeah, I think we I think we actually hold hands and on kind of walk down the street as a side of it And black male into the sea, but what's crazy is we kind of do that in a fraternity. It kind of it's forced intimacy at times You know, but because it's a ritual or because it's you got to do this because you're in the fray It's something that we do it becomes accepted because it's a it's not gay because it's a tradition I mean, what's it gotta give you this letter?
It's not that we don't do gay shit, but Right it's crazy because we gotta give it as good as we don't do gay shit. It's just it's wild man We don't need it. We don't need it. So kind of I mean, we're all right, so we don't have to give up anything esoteric, but there was a point where we had no announcement All right, yeah, all right I mean, I will say this there are times because especially on the army breath and I don't have a lot of friends never did Because one day you have a friend you won't You have a best friend on Wednesday and on Thursday.
I'm leaving. I'm never coming back again And you know you're never gonna see each other right so it comes a defense mechanism when you don't have friends We're just in each other's lives for a period of time and then we're gonna move the fuck on That's just what it becomes But when you do have friends, I didn't really have real friends like lifelong friends until I got to college And even still it becomes a challenge. It's like I love this person or I love these people But I'm limited on how I can show or tell them how much I love it. I Can verbally tell them I love them right but as a man there really is no other way to express how much more you love it You know, I'm saying like I can't you know saying like as Nina We can't we can't share the popcorn bucket together.
You know saying like We're limited on how we can express love to each other a dap is great, but I happen to go I mean I have a lot of niggas up I that makes up that I don't know and the difference between the dap is I may not bring it in You know, I was saying Disney I don't bring it in but this nigga And I might tuck and I might get my little pat on the back I love that more the difference with my lifelong friend that I probably take a bullet for and the nigga that I don't even know His name is just the rap around the back You're right though. You're right. So how would you I mean put it like that at all makes sense I'm agreeing with y'all and even oh girl kind of more but when you say it like that What else would it be because I think it's not even a matter of us Like I think it's more like societal more like this stuff. It's just used to you know, how do you break that?
I mean, I think it's like touch barrier to different in different countries that I'm to your point from earlier, but is that what it is? I was talking about a lot of that. I was like I can't stop playing more than I do already. I'm not bugging that I feel like I'm good.
Like I'm But even still it's it's still You may be comfortable with it today, but it's probably something that you did deliberately at one point in time to move towards that, right? You know I'm saying like today for first of all, my son is a hugger when he sees kids that he knows or his boys He hugs them like hey, bro, and then he hugs them in my reaction as a father Is to be like don't hug him And then I think to myself I'm like is that right or is that wrong? But then even if it's not right or wrong, I'm not gonna have a reaction at all. That's just me.
That's my individual toxicity, right? Whatever. I'm not gonna react if he wants to hug him because that's his friend and my son is Forgoing on by for those who need to know. So once he does that I'm going through my internal battle But I'm not gonna verbally or outwardly express that but then not only do I have to deal with that I also have to deal with not only just the father but the mother of the other little boy and the father is gonna have a reaction The father might have a reaction where I don't want your son hugging my son because I don't want my son to have that sort of intimacy with another man That's one thing and then we also have the feeling that it's not just me and it's also women Women women don't want their sons to to be gay either You know I'm saying and we all have this signal.
We all have this in the back of our minds So my son runs up and my son doesn't explain what I'm gonna show any Like right, you know, I mean sort of behavior like that. I mean, I don't know. I'm just That's time. So that's just what the fuck I'm saying Yeah, but he hugs his friends and even a woman will be like y'all their boys y'all that you know like give a high-five Give him a give him a bump.
You know say it in a lot of times You'll see your kids won't give him a bump before he goes in for the hook give him a bump And you're trying to ease him into that as opposed to the hook like his wow. It's wow, bro And it's it's hard to unprobe that I'll be it's hard to unprobe that I feel like he's a day to hunters across the board But again, but but again, you talk about other people's parents like some people nip that shit in the book as soon as they see any Signs of put that down. Oh, that's pink. No, you grab a blue.
You know what I'm saying? Like you have it And again a lot of a lot of moms a lot of foot even Girl when we were boys and girls grew up, you know, I'm saying they'd be quick to call somebody gay Or you know, I'm saying y'all gay or even when we've all dated to take you I'm about to go play the game with all boys or I'm about to go over my home boy. How about a I y'all fucking like what's going on? You don't understand like You yeah, we've got to take a thing.
We've all heard that look at your boy Right, you understand it's just women look at women look at any pursuit That's not any activity is not in the pursuit of a giant as all But the thing you want to expound I mean because First off, it's a control thing, right? Women don't like for the vagina not to be the apex goal or whatever if that's not the happiness driver They have questions, right? Okay, that takes them out of the control arena, right? I think he likes this as much or more than this I have a control conflict for the world but secondly if they're looking at it like The game women always have a problem with the game kick it with the boys Down in the basement by yourself Whatever it is Why is it not in the pursuit of vagina and they look at that as a problem because their entire life revolve around Men are constantly in pursuit of meat Basically of a giant and it's also a little bit there's a misconception because from their viewpoint There's always someone in pursuit of that But it's not always the same person they don't realize that that person may be in pursuit of that but they'll fucking you know I'm gonna go do something else and that person might go play the game But they don't see that behind the scenes where they're not involved It's always the lens of themselves which is an after-home reaction to think through my viewpoint that everybody should be concerned with me in my vagina And if you're not What is wrong and that's awkward and that's peculiar and that's where we get into a lot of this Oh, this nigga must be gay because he's also other she ain't I'm trying to find you right now.
It's like Did you start feel just came out? Can we talk about uh Wats okay for women not to feel like I have it six but as soon as they get Don't feel I have it six. It's a problem. I mean the same way it's a problem.
I mean the same way it's a problem as you're a problem and others I mean it's a little different This is not okay. It's a little different, but I'm just saying I heard women talk about other men like that He said he was tired like maybe that nigga was tired man You know what I'm saying like uh, you probably got ED that's what you gonna start here and take now at this age is I'm gonna make it try to get ED and it might just be the negative just Or they got a little tea like like Psychological man, it's at this point. We're not old yet So that's happening. Maybe make it a point for like one of those people that don't know Right or I'm just thinking might just watch football.
You might just be tired. You might just be tired. You might just be tired Most times women say or what men feel like I'm just tired right now I mean when niggas say they're tired 90% of the five But I'm sorry like I'm just I got a lot of shit going on. I've been trying to get a place from monday through friday You was bullshit now.
It's saturday. I know you're trying to give it up a bitch I've been working six days for shit. You should fuck with me all Thursday like you need to get your time in bed like it's just The thing is we also have more time than going to be going to be younger. Why don't you have more time for it?
None of us all that I think we do I mean I got one that's gonna be only but it's just like no need time to be On tonight you can be on your favorite Right, yeah, we know you know seperate right Rubbish it out in the subway 30 It's just It goes back to the gay and toxic thing man like you can't be You can't be other than a masculine Hyper section being at all times I remember when I was like my broke up with the girl Years ago We're not really a microphone first of both huh. He was rubbing on your microphone. I gave you whether or not policy anyway So singing is um, so I broke up the girl and I would say I was prepared and during that period over the next three or so much I like them when it comes to me and I'd like um not me to land on an active age or two. I'm like, yes, I I'm good at whatever and during that time like they're all like They were trying to when they weren't men on the book that they all pretty sure that was throwing the appreciation.
Okay, please I didn't want to mess it up. I'm so you died in the first day. I was thrown at you. Go ahead.
Each time probably I'm like, you know, You haven't booked this club. You have some drinks in the safe place. Don't even worry about it I'm gonna go. I'm going straight.
You didn't gotta worry about me and the next day each time It makes me think it was like, you know what? Well, well conversations may never came back. What is that is that? I'm sad.
I don't want to know. Is that just an expectation that niggas are just toxic and I know just niggas If I say this niggas, I'm trying to fuck is that that or is that something else? I think it's a mix. I think it's a it was the expected toxicity because even one of them like she was a string and junk out and I've never heard a rule unless we together mess with the drum.
I wasn't been together. You know what I'm saying? Like we're in a fabager like but as a rule, I never met a rule where um the drum Is the make their girl like from legal purposes? I was very drunk.
He didn't even try. I was like because he was very drunk. I had to carry you from from uh my car The day like how am I gonna make you go there? I mean that's a great question for a woman though We said I mean we needed a woman for this question like yeah if you're over a man's house or in a man's domicile Y'all are not like Because you don't go up together and shit like you don't have that type of relationship And then it doesn't try to fuck you like is that awkward or is that peculiar?
You know saying like that would be a I would be really interested. I mean that's happened me before it like it's just like You didn't like you didn't try to fuck me another. It's like I didn't know we was you was just here But that's interesting though. I mean and the follow question that is Is that is that a toxic trait of women like you know I'm saying like you expect every man to want to fuck you I mean sometimes it's it's bad because you expect that a man to fuck you But then it's also on the flip side You kind of come in and get sideways and think something is wrong with him because he didn't he wasn't toxic enough But it comes with that it kind of it aligns to me And I'm I think of that when she's why I think about the video and the girl talking about like you walk around weapons in Their own way to do with it like no, you know what we're doing like I think we broke again stroke a little broad brush So No, I'm saying like it's not that deep for some of us the pin going I get to her point out you're right And how you think you know I'm saying like It's not that deep all the time now and you have self-control For most part like I don't know let me ask the hogo getter.
Let me ask the hogo getter a question He knows exactly who he is. That's also what's hilarious Yeah, you like don't do it Should you throw a customary lob Just a walk into the door like just the cost of the price of admission the cost of doing business You're gonna get a lob do you think that's What do you mean? I mean like chicks coming over to crib like y'all not I mean y'all aren't already fucking y'all don't have their relationship But just throw it alive just to see what she's gonna say you don't have to be it's not a drawdown but like Let her know like in whatever creative way you're gonna do it Don't let her know that if you trying to fuck fucking is definitely on the menu should you throw the lob is that customary like just a walking to the door Let her know Right Over there And then I say okay cool. We'll just watch television.
That's I'm just gonna watch television and she could do all the Get up out of the covers and back up to me and all that No, who is this? Who's this person? She got you also went on everything She said that's not what she gonna do. I'm not doing it and it might be a it might just be a I would say a power thing but or petty and more probably more petty than power thing We don't watch these pieces.
That's what you say Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, so So so so let's say it gets so pointy y'all This is why I didn't notice of the game you played so I didn't know this was a good play book but this is a part of my play book so So You've all you both established size you both established terms. I didn't come over here for that and you're like, okay What okay, you're not here for that either and I'm gonna play it like you're not here for that neither Right, but she's not leaving right? She's not like falling over with the taxi cab. It looks like we're getting in a bed or some situation Also My whole boy just apologize on changing plans, right?
Like, you know, what they could be like, let me just you know, y'all just said it and I thought I'd say to be like Mostly and then the girl there's some either pussy and then they eventually you know kid they call it a tank plan What she would have to do is reverse change plans on me Which means it had to be something like overt like dick Grant ballroom. You know what I'm saying? Something like that. It's a chance to tell like gosh you right, but you can't just kind of I'm not gonna try you They say for the back of my heart, man.
It's hard. It's definitely definitely layers to it man It is like I watch quarterback on Netflix. You see but it's a chef's point to a chick who doesn't know how to play that game She might be in your slits in your house not leaving But you're sticking to the terms that she gave you on the telephone That she's not doing nothing and then she's gonna go back to her home girls or wherever the fuck she is Social whatever the fuck it is and be like something wrong with that nigga because he didn't try me And I think that goes back to chef's point, you know saying where Women to play that game because they don't wanna they don't know how to play aggressive They don't know how to play dirty pool or aggressive pool. So they're gonna blame on you Which is fine because I'll be all right And I get a week I can't be that different like you go okay, you go work as I'll go to moly like Like how y'all Oh It's all right here though look here look here y'all Y'all should pay for that one this episode you buy to pay well Listen that goes to go to tell what our questions about can women women fumble men and the answers this When the phone goes all right So Are your shoes on your shoes off You look like you do your toes like that A little do ball post another page talked about you always hear about Man and the one they got away Never hear from the woman side saying that you know they fumbled a good guy And if reading the comments again comments is what the devil is but you know, it's just more women talking about uh-huh You can't fumble a good man, you know how if I'm a good woman If he's missing out blah blah blah blah blah no matter what they did So what I don't you you take this first I gotta come up next on this so I feel like women lean into toxicity anyway Like they look for that we just talked about the whole situation where he tried me They want the toxic to get to try them and I'm saying like that's what they're going to lean into That's what they're going to counter be attracted to because they they want that aggressiveness You know I'm saying that assertiveness from a man It kind of lets them off the hook, but you know saying and that's kind of what they're looking for but the good nigga A lot of times isn't going to have that assertiveness one because those are his priorities And if you're a woman, you don't want that to be as far as you want to be I'm making money right now or I'm trying to get my shit together or I'm in a mental place where I'm trying to fucking be a better person You know, so you want those to be far away, but if you want The question or you to be the priority then you're really not trying to attack it nigga You know I'm saying so a lot of times what women are looking for ultimately go to result in them being with something That is not the nigga that they want to be with and along the way They're going to be able to couple of niggas who aren't giving them the interest or the energy of the assertiveness They're looking for and they're gonna pass over good niggas We've seen this shit before we see this when we go back to homecoming She would have got she would have been with one other nigga Whatever the fucking is and they would got married divorced whenever the fucking is and then you're homecoming and she's in your mother fucking face You know, why are you and my motherfucking this?
Yeah, but even you're even more specific, right? I feel like I'm especially as you're older and I have a couple single hall boys and A lot of women just do too much if I ask common home boy now You're like man, what's the biggest thing that you wish when a new at this age? It's like man just be cool, right? Just I just I just wanted to be cool But a lot of women because they made a different relationships bring a lot of baggage from over like ships to the new to the new dude We always say don't lead on a person in that country that didn't touch them.
Sorry and that's what happens sometimes I've had I've dated women that just would overthink things which would make shit uncool, you know, just like oh, yeah I didn't do this I didn't do this because I thought you would think this about me and then you would think that about me So I didn't do it. It was just too too fucking much at this point or You're not being yourself because you want to fit the mode of whatever Instagram code you should be and you don't fix plates because that's white kid and I should be a wife act like a wife because I've had it instead of just being yourself and I think That you've been inauthentic. You're gonna end up fumbling Uh, the day again, especially a nigga again. We're talking 40 plus He's kind of been around the block.
He sees things and at this point He just wants somebody to like have a good time with and not have a lot of headaches and stress and just be again Let's just be cool. Let's just go out have a good time eat foods Let's do some music do some dances, have some drinks and you know, see where this takes us without a lot of Oh, my mom boy said he had one check that was walking around with a notebook And things to ask on your on the date and just just a lot of weird shit. Oh, I think I think one I think being cool for a woman is a regional And be also required some sort of story behind it. I don't think it's natural based on the social makeup or how women operate Uncle, yes, absolutely But like I think that I mean you never noticed why the cool chick is always like I don't hang around a whole lot of chicks It's always that shit.
That's like she's kind of cool I think midwest chicks and I might be into the midwest masculine thing that you talk about J-jow Where's like they have a little bit of that a little bit of niggas in them so where they're they're cool enough like Right, you know what I'm saying? I could drink with her, you know what I'm saying like and that's gonna make her cool I think a lot of like a kind of chick is probably not gonna have that She's gonna be cool, but she's gonna come from a pimp angle If you always gotta like that keep in the back of your mind or your legs gonna be suited up, you know what I'm saying? Um or a story like and by story, I mean She was the ugly duckling that just happened to join the volleyball team She got fined as a junior or something like something like that. You know what I'm saying?
Like she wasn't always this or she Niggas talk all the time with no self Sometimes in low self chicks. It's like she's bad. Her number is her number in reality is higher than what her number in her head is Like shit like that makes it shake more cool and I think that's A lot of times they end up marrying that chick or being with that chick long term because like she's fucking cool and she may not deserve it Hourly whereas the the bitch who's been a nine or a tenor whole fucking life. She's leading squad I've always been big kids on campus Miss whatever the fucking is.
She's like what the fuck you know what I'm saying like Like why why is she such a bitch because she always expects that she's not cool because she doesn't expect niggas to be cool Or I'm that bitch. Why are you being cool with me? And I'm saying it's like that's not a much shit that they expect Can we talk about chicks in Mississippi All the podcast as we Chisholm South Carolina Chick who dressed better and a little bit cuter. No, we did okay.
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Thanks listener for that question We'll get this episode behind a paywall and just to wish it in this episode We'll get canceled appraise. I don't know. Okay, but why are our Because there's nothing in Alabama Then we have a professional football team And if you're from if you're from South Alabama, you're really not rocking with the tie you're an Auburn fan and Auburn isn't Auburning right now. So it's like No What is that you that you shot?
I feel like they've been getting touched early like in general like my family members like what are you talking about? I don't think it's that I think they just start practicing early because I don't think When I went down to when I went out of Alabama, I was welcomed heartily by like the community Oh Because I was a new nigga and I wasn't old enough to be involved in those type of shenanigans I was way too young for that but Alabama Alabama Alabama is a friend I was born in Alabama. I'm a son of Alabama Yeah, I was I still in dole in Alabama All my kids in Alabama man like my whole daddy side of the family is from it's from measured So I'm at the Birmingham for this Christian conference you conference that was my indoctrination Oh, y'all different here All the boy in the back of the night just actively proceed Alabama throughout my college first I'm having lives until they fuck with a chick who put up a ball cap on and drop a pickup truck A pickup truck chick is gone. It is gone She's going she's going to escalate your program Like your program is gonna You like you like you do you do one double a whether you miss with like chicken with a pickup truck You your program.
You don't need to wait room and all that right after that Yeah, cuz you're gonna end up fucking in the back of the pickup. Oh absolutely She won't teach you something anything about it. She know you know staying she like I'm in this little small last time I know you know staying but it's okay, but we don't need to talk to you leave And we come back and we come back and we come back and I go to That's how we don't need any life, okay, but it's what I said at your program Oh, I was in college. I was like you can do this in my place and get back.
I was like man You're so kind He was he wasn't there. He wasn't until I asked myself like what's the rest of them? But yes She gave you the terms You get the terms she gave you the terms. I mean by bad.
I was trying to quite a deal. I'm doing focus on graduating But yes, yeah, thank you You go to you You go to the dairy queen get you a dip cone afterwards, you know, I'm saying Give you some ball peanuts like it's gonna be great Y'all gonna be like half naked you draw some and throw into the side because they all must be in dirty now Sitting back in the picture pick up try eat some Eat some ball peanuts and dress them some pvls or something and watch the fucking little the love birds Maybe like it don't get no better Okay, that's your dad's Change your life Well, the name The next question was But they'll basically say in their women at this age going to the gym Um trying to keep it right keep it tight. They have facial regimens and you know, some of them are going to get both ties to do a pilates They're doing hot cold yoga. They're doing a Cryo chambers and shit and she wanted to know is there anything that us men are doing now at this age?
You try to keep it right and tight for the ladies Um, that's why especially for things you said something about art Not especially but including our asses and people No, because we don't have to Why do we have to do that if there's anything that may have learned from the age of fucking 11 or 12 is that we don't have to do this shit? Because there was time When you can be doing push-ups in your room in middle school or whatever fuck age got your head down You got some nice day like you have started to like work on yourself to improve women and then look up and that woman still doesn't choose you It may not like well, damn I got it did all the shit now that went down the fucking chat is I don't I bought me some joins that my mom I'm a baby mommy daddy for these joins Got these joins on my feet. I got these motherfucking I got all the clothes that they were in I feel like I'm not ugly in the motherfucking face. I didn't my push-ups and shit Why are you fucking with this ugly ass nigga?
And it happens over and over and over again and niggas realize it's like I don't have to fucking do this This nigga wins because he got more acorns than I fucking got he might have more money He might have a better car. He might fucking just be that nigga based on football team or greek letter organization or He fighting niggas whatever the fucking is that's what's getting into the motherfucking finish line So why the fucking I put niggas learn this shit earlier earlier. So When we're 35 40 we're well seasoned to the game I don't need to do none of that shit All I need to do is stay on my motherfucking rhino measure my papers, right? Because they're just gonna fuck me because I'm about to just we're about to go do some fly shit We're about to go eat some fucking fly shit.
We're about to go take a fly We're going to wherever the fuck we're going That's all the fuck I need to do what the fuck is I don't what the fuck is I'm doing push-ups for Well, why do I care about fucking 11% body fat right now? Poor I'm not fucking poor. She's fucking with me. That's the fucking game and niggas learn that shit fucking early So I don't know why we have this whole fucking facade.
Oh niggas need to get into motherfucking Jim I'm in Jim and niggas need to be known niggas. No, no, no, no, fuck we don't Bitch, I just got a motherfucking raise. I just got a bonus for 75k and I got a 20k raise come fuck with me We ain't Vegas on Saturday. You fucking with me and I I think um It was like rocking what your partner they're gonna encourage you to You know just be better for yourself.
Everybody wants to be around for a long time or whatever To what's going on. I don't think it's necessary. That's the other for any sort of aesthetic or anything We kind of touched on that earlier. I guess if you got some benefits in a 401k or a pension or whatever like someone's suck would be bad pass but What was the original question again?
I think we kind of say well that one makes you interested Well, basically is it anything that we're doing now to any type of resume that we have? Yeah, yeah, you should I think you should just be doing that anyway, that's basically what I'm trying to call it to I Think niggas have to have it's not physical like to be a head of household to be a husband to be a father is wildly mental, you know I'm saying like there's nobody for us to escalate to except for Jesus so You got to have that in order like fuck a deadlift nigga like you need to have that in order So you need to have that in order you have interest in order interest outside of her Interest outside of the job and money like you just need to have a life You know saying think that you're doing things that you're doing things are interested And I think that gives us more balance and more peace than anything Because one thing that comes with niggas who's in the gym so fucking heavy is other bitches And that just goes into another tail spin of not making the shit work because if I'm fucking 12% body fat and I'm out here Rock up and shit like that I get that you're in the gym boo-boo, but I'm 12% body fat out here I got some things on it. Hey, man. I don't think it was just all about the gym though Anyhow, I think it's like get facials Cool No, no because niggas don't do this niggas No, we don't get toxic niggas can't get the better get face no, I'm saying you can you can but here's the thing It's all the fucking it's but it's all the budget.
It's all the resources You know I'm saying like a nigga can't go get his fucking nails done every motherfucking we can get facials every other fucking week And I'm a massage every fucking month like we're just gonna look at you fucking sideways I think you spend a whole lot of money on like Yes It's one thing for you every now and then to go and get your shit straight Go get you know go get your toes done flick the toes in the water get you a little massage or shit like that everybody every man should do that But there's a threshold for that shit like you can't be going to get waxed every Wednesday like or at all it gets to a point No We live we live in radioactive times like that's too much fucking self care you are and also here's the Women in general like the idea of your self-care on their fucking terms not your self-care on your fucking terms Because it's different it's different And I would say I mean because it sounds like it sounds like what this because I found the woman asked this question Right, so this woman was trying to compare what they do to what we do First of all what we do for self-care is different in general and secondly has a different person Like I'm not doing these things like I go to the gym four times a week I'm not like so upset about it. I don't like that But the reason I do that is for my health and wellness not to live but also the wood swing Need doing that type of stuff and having that original helps me mentally I have to be completely available and completely on Every day Like I can't I can't quit because it can work and I think like that I have to be completely not so doing stuff like that helped my community if he seems together to keep him shut That's the main thing and that's the purpose behind it The reason he's been going into like certain things to show here like I don't get a picture But that's mostly because I could just do it my life. I don't do it my bill like if I'm gonna be together and I don't want to be the people myself. I think that's nothing that's Latin gross like I need to have So they're part of their terms.
Yeah, you have to go for the shot they want to go to and you related it Well, no, we go to the shop I like this one particular shot I Probably once a quarter well five sacks that you have to go to the shop at all So, amen playing the game is self-care Go go into the court and playing basketball for two hours is self-care Yeah, but that's not on their turn You know saying like why you always going to the basketball court? You know, why are you why are you going to the pool hall and shooting pool or why are you going to the bar and talking to them? They get them old ass niggas for whatever, you know say that's not on their turn They're like well if you want to self-care like why don't you go get a massage? That's not you know saying by the way, I love a massage.
I just got me massage. It was outstanding, but That's not the first thing that comes to our mind when we think of self-care because we know that our care lives in other places They're where our woman's care lives, you know saying so It's hard to have that conversation. It seems that we want to do our self-care. It's very much conflict It's like well, I just want to go play golf for three and a half hours.
That's my self-care. I don't really fuck with that We kind of pivoted it wasn't about self-care. It was about Like what do you have flawless skin, right? We all know it That is It's my natural Ethiopian skin You know, you just watch it with our screen so the way You know saying watch right you like that.
Oh, I don't know what i think of it. Yeah, the Huh, you do both of them. No, I don't know what that is. I'm scared of pushing on my skin because I fucking was gonna I want Man I don't think my skin I want Nas levels in I was talking to Jay From the show that would step down for world level.
Scandal get under there. No Nause Nause. She is impeccable boy. I think it got like That's what's said.
I bet that they go to a government comment. He's got like a version of leather skin This gets my version of the world I'm gonna go that way but they got a million. I mean one was definitely a governmentologist. I think it's probably who this one of those C-B ent I didn't start actually deliberately watching my faces.
I didn't start watching my faces. I was like, what are you doing? I mean, I watched my faces. I was like, I'm watching my face.
I was like, what are you doing? He's going from the top down. Oh, so now you have a regiment. Oh, now I actually like, I said I want a Nazi.
I said I want a Nazi. I told you. I told Jay. I told Jay for another show.
She was like, what's your regiment? You're trying to get keep. I'm really not. It's nothing special.
What we asked, that was the question. It was a really nice thing. It isn't you, it isn't you, it's that well. I think.
So now I do use an actual like cleanser. Right. So I watch my face separately from my body. I actually get out of the shower and watch my face.
I only watch my face with my hands. I watch my face with a cleanser for ASOP. Oprah recommended it. It's really good.
The same guy does the thing. Right. What does it? ASOP.
Yes, it's spelled the same. So I use that and it actually gets. ASOP or ASOP? ASOP.
ASOP. Right. Hey you. So I use that and then I use a toner with a chemical exfoliant.
Right. So it's not like rubbing on my skin. It'll naturally exfoliate. And then I will also moisturize with.
It's called face jelly. It's got a little like micro moisture. Is it a jelly or is it a jelly? No.
Jelly like regular jelly. They're like sugars. It's like a jelly. It's like a jelly.
And then they light. What is it? Sunscreen on top of that. Sunscreen slash moisture.
And another one. So you use that every day? No. No, no, no.
So I only try to. The toner slash exfoliant. I only use that like once a week. But I also realized.
See this is the white people should about it. Like once I started doing this shit, it started fucking my skin up. Because my skin is used to having all the oils and the dirt and the natural bacteria that it has on it throughout my whole life. So I just watched it like I watched my body.
The language that you have in your soul. So when I started to use those chemicals on my face every day, it did not like that. So then I had to realize what I could put on it every day. And honestly, black people feel like you had to watch your ass three times a day all this time shit in order to be clean.
Your body and your face doesn't like that. So I really want to watch my face probably actually watch my face probably like twice a week. And I try to let it be natural for a couple of days. And I can feel it.
I can feel it when I need to watch my face. And then I'll watch my face. You did all that grandstand and you could have just labeled this and that's 17 things you do with your face stuff. So you get all that.
All that thing to mind. Yeah. I'll just do both of the moments. I'll do the process of because I shave as well at the same time.
So you shave with a double edge and double edge razor and all that. And this is probably for most men. It's not so much the result, but it's the process of taking care of yourself. Not so much.
But it's just shaving your face. The sound of the razor, the razor blade is taking the hairs away. It is honestly my moisturizing your beer and all that. It's just like you do all that.
If you go all that and you hop out the bedroom and it's like, it's like apex therapy. Fuck talking to the lady. That's it. What's the air conams company that came on the show?
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