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Send us Fan MailThree years after losing her limb, Victoria marks her "FU anniversary" with a raw, unfiltered conversation about survival, resilience, and finding your voice after trauma. This special edition podcast takes listeners on a deeply personal journey through narcissistic family dynamics and the challenging path of the family "black sheep."Victoria shares exciting news about her new anthology "Dear Silence You Lost, We Get the Last Word" – a powerful collection of survivor stories from around the world. This international gathering of voices breaks the silence surrounding abuse in all its forms: emotional, physical, verbal, and sexual. With all proceeds funding healing scholarships, the project embodies Victoria's commitment to providing support without financial barriers.The heart of this episode explores the psychological terrain familiar to many listeners – the impossible dynamics of narcissistic family relationships. Drawing from decades of therapy and her own painful experiences, Victoria articulates how narcissists systematically undermine and isolate the family truth-teller. She vulnerably shares her journey of surviving domestic violence that left her with over 100 surgeries, metal throughout her body, significant hearing loss, and ultimately, amputation.Despite these challenges, Victoria transformed her trauma into purpose. Alongside her husband, she's created award-winning resources for survivors while building a family based on the unconditional love and support she never received growing up. Her memoirs "Who Kicked First?" and "Nard Nard Who's There?" document her experiences with evidence-based accounts, offering validation for others on similar journeys.The episode closes with a powerful message for fellow black sheep and scapegoats everywhere: your worth isn't determined by those who can't accept responsibility for their actions. Though healing isn't easy, remembering your inherent value is the first step toward reclaiming your life after narcissistic abuse. If you've ever felt misunderstood, devalued, or silenced within your family, this conversation will resonate deeply and remind you that you're not alone.Support the show