We Told Our Staff to ‘Be Real’—But Only When It’s Encouraging

Church staff cultures often preach authenticity but practice a harmful form of toxic positivity where only positive, polished vulnerability is acceptable. This creates environments where staff learn to mask real issues with "I'm fine" responses, critique becomes spiritualized rather than addressed, and genuine struggles remain hidden behind forced smiles.• Toxic positivity manifests when complaints are labeled divisive instead of diagnostic• Staff learn unspoken rules: don't bring negativity or uncomfortable questions• Many staff members perform rather than expressing genuine feelings• Biblical precedent supports honest expression - "If David could write Psalm 88, your staff should be able to say 'I'm struggling'"• Leaders must model authenticity by admitting when they're tired, sad or uncertain• Starting meetings with what's real rather than just what's good builds trust• Celebrating courage in truth-telling creates psychological safety• A healthy church culture isn't afraid of addressing hard truths, even when they're not positiveReach out if you need help addressing toxic positivity in your church staff culture at [email protected] questions or comments?  Send to [email protected] sure to subscribe to The Healthy Church Staff Podcast wherever you regularly listen to podcasts.- - - - - Is Your Church Hiring?If your church is searching for a new staff member, reach out to Todd for a conversation on how he might be able to help.Are You Looking for a New Ministry Role?If you are open to a new church role in the next few months, add your free resume and profile at ChemistryStaffing.com.