Weaponized Incompetence: Manipulation or Just Being Human?

Weaponized incompetence is a trending term — but are we using it correctly?In this episode of The Spaghetti Wall Podcast, Jason Wilcox, LCSW, and Dr. Thaen Saelee break down what weaponized incompetence actually is, how to tell the difference between manipulation and normal human imperfection, and why mislabeling your partner can quietly damage trust.We explore:The role of intentionalityThe “burden of competence”Mental load and division of laborHow perfectionism complicates the conversationWhy buzzwords can create more harm than clarityIf you’ve ever wondered whether your partner is avoiding responsibility — or if you’re worried you might be carrying too much — this episode gives you practical tools rooted in assertive communication, not accusation.Be honest. Be thoughtful. Be kind.