WELL / AWARE Show 032: Uncoupling in Other Ways

What this episode covers

It’s the end of day two of a three day cleanse. I’m doing it a little differently this time, and I’m excited because it seems to be working in all of the right ways and I will write a blog post about exactly what I did. Hint: it’s not just juice. After having done just juice for four days two other times, I figured out that it doesn’t really fit my lifestyle and that’s okay. Also, sugar is an enormously overlooked factor in juice cleanses, IMO. More on that to come. Today it’s about Uncoupling. Not in the Gwenyth sense of romantic uncoupling, but using the same concept to describe the habitual “if, then” phenomena in an emotional thought process, and how to disassociate thought patterns from one another. Because chances are that it’s this triggered negative emotion that’s holding you back, and that emotion can be let go as soon as we identify the pattern. It’s the process that needs a remedy. If you’ve been holding yourself back in any way, or find yourself in the same situation over and over you’d rather not be in, this is one way to get insight into why, and then a few techniques that may alleviate the white knuckle grip. This episode will be helpful for anyone who finds themselves in the same insufferable situations, time after time. It’s for the individual who is ready to peel back the next few layers, as this one isn’t so easy. It’s for anyone who wants a a new way of seeing and getting unstuck. In this episode I dive into a pattern I’ve begun to recognize in order to illustrate this pattern using an example that’s very close to my heart — my dad’s passing. A few things I discuss in this episode include: * “if, then” thought processes * the lasting effects of traumatic events * ending suffering * how to get out of your own way I wanted to share this experience because it was a true aha moment for me, and I thought it may be for some of you, too. Here are the steps — IDENTIFY: Identify the instances that you’re holding yourself back, that you’re repeating a pattern you’d rather not. NOTICE: The coupled emotion that precedes it. How are you feeling before the unwanted behavior happens? EXAMINE: The first time these two coupled emotions appeared in your life together. My guess is that this event, whether it was positively or negatively charged, was a big deal. This exercise will help you become clearer. Don’t fret if you don’t nail it in the first few minutes you’re thinking about it, it can take a while to mull over but something will click. Next week, the ladies behind Waiting for Saturday will be on the show — stay tuned and until next time, be well. Photo by Maya Moverman