We’re Blaming the Kid Instead of Fixing the Problem

In this episode of the Thinklete Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Ross Greene, author of The Explosive Child and Lost at School, to challenge everything we’ve been taught about discipline, behavior, and defiance.Dr. Greene’s core belief is simple—and disruptive: kids do well if they can. When they don’t, the issue isn’t motivation or attitude—it’s unmet skills and unsolved problems.This conversation covers:Why behavior is a signal, not the problemWhy punishment and rewards fail to build skillsHow environment shapes regulation and resilienceThe power of collaborative problem solving over controlWhat parents and coaches can do when kids keep strugglingThis episode is for parents, coaches, and educators who feel stuck in power struggles—and are ready for a better way to help kids grow without lowering expectations.🎧 Listen, rethink discipline, and start solving the right problems.Follow Dr. Ross Greene:Website: https://livesinthebalance.org/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livesinthebalance/Website: https://cpsconnection.com/Documentary: https://www.thekidswelose.com/