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EPISODE · Mar 25, 2026 · 57 MIN

We’re Parenting Too Much, And It’s Backfiring. What We’re Bringing Back from 90’s Parenting

from After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings

We need to say something that might make you uncomfortable: we are over-parenting our kids. We are over-helping. Over-entertaining. Over-scheduling. Over-involving ourselves in every single moment of their lives. And it’s not making things better. It’s making our kids less independent, less resilient, and less capable of handling real life.In this episode, we’re bringing back the parts that 90’s parenting got right (not the fear-based, emotion-dismissing, boooooorderline trauma parts), but the parts that actually built confident, capable kids. Because back then? Kids figured things out. They got bored. They solved problems. They had space to become themselves. And today? We’re doing so much for them… they don’t get the chance. This episode will challenge you — in the best way.We’re talking about:Why your kid NEEDS boredom (and why it’s so hard for us to allow it)How constant involvement is quietly undermining confidenceThe science behind independent play and why it matters more than any activityWhy fewer toys, fewer plans, and fewer interventions actually lead to better outcomesHow to step back without feeling like you’re failing your kidYour job is not to make your child’s life smooth. Your job is to raise a kid who becomes an adult who can handle a life that isn’t. This episode will help you pull back, without guilt, and start raising a kid who can stand on their own two feet. Repeat after me : PERMISSION TO DO LESS. Sound too good to be true? Tune in to find out just how easy this simple shift in parenting can be.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Experian - Get started with the Experian App now! See experian.com for details.Little Spoon - Get 30% off your first order at littlespoon.com/BLF30 with code BLF30.Magnetic Me - Get 15% off sitewide at magneticme.com.Nutrafol - Head to nutrafol.com and enter the promo code FEELINGS for $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping. Shopify - Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at shopify.com/BLF. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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