What Are Recovered Memories? How Memory Distortion Leads to Family Estrangement with Mark Pendergrast

In this episode of Family Troubles, I sit down with journalist and author Mark Pendergrast to unpack one of the most complex and sensitive issues I see in my work: memory. We explore how memories are formed, how they can shift over time, and how certain therapeutic approaches have contributed to deeply painful family estrangements. Mark shares both his research and his personal story of losing contact with his daughters, offering a perspective that is both informed and deeply human.We talk about the rise of recovered memory claims, why they became so widespread, and what science actually says about how memory works. I also share what I’m seeing in my practice today, from the influence of therapy culture and social media to the many different pathways that can lead to estrangement. This is a nuanced conversation about truth, perception, and the real-world consequences when those lines get blurred.Listen for more on:Why memory is reconstructive and not a perfect recording of the pastHow suggestive therapy techniques can shape or distort memoriesThe difference between forgetting something and never having experienced itWhy some estrangements are rooted in belief, not verifiable eventsThe role of modern therapy culture in shaping family narrativesHow to approach these situations with care, curiosity, and opennessWhy preserving the possibility of dialogue matters more than certaintyIf this conversation gave you something to think about, tune into the full episode and share it with someone who could benefit from a deeper understanding of family relationships.Guest Links:Website: https://www.markpendergrast.comBook: Victim of Memory: Incest Accusations and Shattered LivesDr. Joshua Coleman’s Links:Website: http://www.drjoshuacoleman.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.josh.colemanSubstack: https://substack.com/@joshuacolemanphdFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrJoshColeman/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drjoshuacoleman/?trk=opento_sprofile_topcardTwitter X: https://x.com/drjcolemanYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCc-olRqS_o2xJlkpxWEEErg