What conflicts am I dealing with? And what conflicts do I have within? This is the daily disturbance podcast with Anthony van den Eenen. Shannon Elder, and I quote, often those that criticize others reveal what he himself lacks.
End quote. Whoo. Did that hit? It hit me.
Hurts that you are struggling to heal from. Okay? Here we go. What conflicts am I dealing with?
Number one, hurts that you are struggling to heal from. You know this quote, if you do not heal from what hurt you, you will bleed on people who didn't cut you. Number two, what conflicts am I dealing with within? Unresolved compromises in your life.
Like my friend who hated cigarettes, but worked in a tobacco company. Good. I couldn't reconcile it. I couldn't.
She eventually quit. Oh my gosh. Another one who despised gambling, but worked in the Philippine gaming corporation, a gambling company. You can't, you can't, you can't, just won't rest with unresolved compromises.
The third source of conflict within grief, not given time to express itself. I mean, no one to blame, no one to forgive, no one to seek retribution, just, just a tear to cry, a pain to go through, right, till it goes away, a good body to say for closure. See, we experience grief every time there is loss. And often there is conflict because we have not allowed grief.
The process, it should be allowed in our lives. The fourth source of conflict within is opportunities missed that sometimes you can't forgive yourself for. T-O-T-G-A, right, the one that got away. Anyone of these applying to you so far, I was there, my last source of conflict within tensions from options, you simply must decide on.
Come on. In Tagalog, so you don't have to do that. Among the two, or among the X number of people should you choose from. See, maybe one can't take the trade-offs and it just lengthens the period of internal struggle because there will be trade-offs in every choice you make, right?
There will be benefits and consequences and hopefully you stop this conflict within by finally deciding, basing it on the benefits that outweigh the consequences. Make the choice so you and the people affected can move forward. So what are the conflicts within? H, hurts that you're struggling to heal from.
You unresolved compromises in your life. G, grief not given time to express itself. Oh, opportunities missed that you can't forgive yourself for. And T, tensions.
From options you simply must decide on. H, U, G, O, T, in Tagalog, who got. Anubah, ama, who got Nambuhaimo. To those who do not understand the language, Ahugad is a deep-seated issue that still has its grip on you.
Let me close with this quote from Billy Graham, two conflicting forces cannot exist in one human heart. When doubt reigns, faith cannot abide. Where hatred rules love is crowded out. Where selfishness rules, their love cannot dwell.
When worry is present, trust cannot crowd its way in.