What Counts as Abuse? Recognizing the Hidden Signs in Relationships

In this episode of the Spaghetti Wall Podcast, licensed clinical social worker Jason Wilcox and licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Thaen Saelee tackle one of the most misunderstood topics in relationships: what abuse actually is. Many people recognize physical violence but don't realize that yelling, name-calling, swearing, manipulation, and coercive control are also forms of abuse.Jason and Thaen explore the important distinction between abusive behavior and being an abuser, how control can hide behind the appearance of care, and why your body often signals danger before your mind does. They also unpack the cycle of abuse, the role of negative core beliefs in keeping people stuck, and why "I stayed because I loved them" is ultimately a choice worth examining.Most importantly, they offer practical tools: how to name abusive behavior, set boundaries, and reach out for help. If you've ever wondered whether what you're experiencing "counts," this conversation offers clarity and compassion.If you are in an abusive or domestic violence situation, please reach out to a professional or a domestic violence hotline. Learn more at avidcounseling.org.