What Dating Bay Area Engineers Really Feels Like (w/Violina)

Dating a Bay Area engineer can look perfect on paper… but feel unexpectedly lonely in real life.In this episode, we get brutally honest about what it’s actually like dating engineers in Silicon Valley—the parts that feel safe and stable, and the parts that quietly hurt. Violina is back, and we’re sharing real stories, unpacking patterns we kept running into, and reflecting on the moments that led to some big realizations.We also talk about the green flags—what draws so many people to engineers in the first place—and why those same traits can sometimes create disconnect in relationships.This is about understanding what works, what doesn’t, and what actually matters in the long run. If you’ve ever felt like you’re dating someone who tries to debug emotions instead of actually feeling them, this conversation will hit home.Whether you’re dating in the Bay Area, seeing a software engineer, or you are an engineer wanting to understand how this dynamic can land, this episode offers clarity—and some practical questions you’ll wish you had asked earlier.Share your thoughts, or send in questions📝Support the show💖 Meet the host - Tongalag☀️Apply to be a guest☕️Take me out for a virtual coffee ✨Social Media