What Do I Do if I Don't Feel "in love" With My Spouse Anymore? |Ep. 749

What do you do when the butterflies are gone and you no longer feel "in love" with your spouse? If you've ever wondered whether fading feelings mean something is wrong with your marriage, you're not alone. In this honest and hope-filled solo episode, Dr. Kim unpacks why romantic feelings naturally change over time, the difference between love as a feeling and love as a choice, and how couples can begin finding their way back to one another. You'll discover why emotional disconnection often happens gradually, how small intentional steps can reignite closeness, and why God isn't finished writing your marriage story. If your relationship feels distant, this episode offers practical encouragement and biblical hope for rebuilding connection—one choice at a time.   Episode Takeaways: Why fading feelings don't have to mean your marriage is failing. The difference between love as a feeling and love as a daily choice. Practical steps to rebuild emotional connection and find your way back to each other. Quotes from This Episode: Dr. Kim Kimberling "Feelings are real. They matter. But they are information—not truth." "Don't let a fading feeling become a verdict on your marriage before you've figured out what it's trying to tell you." "The problem isn't that feelings change. The problem is believing that anything quieter than early romance means something is wrong." "Early love is about discovery and excitement. Mature love is about depth, history, and a knowing that only time can build." "If you're waiting to feel in love before you act in love, you may wait a very long time. But when you choose to act in love, the feelings often follow." "God didn't design love to be a noun you possess. He designed it to be a verb you practice." "Emotional disconnection usually doesn't happen because of one big event. It happens through neglect, not cruelty." "Love is rebuilt the same way it was built in the first place—through small moments of safety, honesty, laughter, and presence." "You don't have to fix everything this week. You just have to take the next right step." "Feelings aren't the final word on your marriage. The truth is that God is not finished with your marriage."   Time to Think About it: If I'm honest, what's really underneath my "I don't feel in love anymore" feelings—is it loneliness, fear, exhaustion, or something else? What's one intentional act of love I can choose this week, even if the feelings haven't fully returned yet? Have I been waiting for my feelings to change before investing in my marriage, or am I willing to take the first step toward connection today?   Mentioned in this Episode: Sign up for our daily One Thing email! Need a low pressure, on ramp back toward one another: 4 Week Connection Challenge. If your marriage is struggling, try our 90 Days to Save Your Marriage email series.  Maybe you need to shift how you're viewing your marriage and your spouse. Our Reframing Challenge can help! Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Continue to pursue your spouse by being a student of your spouse.  If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Be the first to hear about all things Awesome Marriage, receive monthly bonus content straight from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy, and take advantage of big discounts by becoming a Marriage Changer!