What Forgiveness Isn't

On today's episode I share the key to walking in freedom in all your relationships: forgiveness.I help you understand forgiveness in a whole new light. Forgiveness is not the same thing as reconcilation. I give examples that help you understand this all important distinction.I also help you see how the missing piece is often forgiving yourself!Forgiveness is: Acknowledging that you were hurt, not just “gracing” it over or saying “it’s ok” or “it doesn’t matter.”Not a feeling but a decision that needs to be made, often more than once.To pardon or release an offender without requiring payment.Non-negotiable because Jesus requires it of us. He simply asks if we are willing, and He will help us if so. He understands how hard it can be.Giving up our perceived “right” to judge them and releasing them to the Lord for Him to deal with in the way and time He chooses.Breaking spiritual bonds between people that keep you both stuck.Necessary for our own freedom and peace.Necessary to prevent a bitter root from forming.Forgiveness does not mean that:The one who hurt us will not be held accountable for their actions.It doesn’t mean we ignore the offense or say it doesn’t matter, because it does.That we have to stay in a relationship with the offender. Reconciliation is different than forgiveness.How to follow upReach out to me at [email protected] to get a free PDF that goes with this episode, or to receive a free phone or zoom consultation where I describe exactly how my coaching program can help you have the relationships of your dreams.