What I did I do?: Defensiveness

Why do we become defensive when we feel criticized, misunderstood, or hurt? In this episode, we explore Dr. John Gottman’s research on defensiveness and how it impacts communication in marriage, family, and everyday relationships. Through a Christian perspective, we discuss how fear, pride, and insecurity can keep us from truly hearing one another and how God calls us to respond with humility, patience, and grace.Together, we’ll talk about practical ways to lower defensiveness, improve communication, and create healthier conversations rooted in love and respect. We’ll also reflect on biblical principles such as being “quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry,” while learning how confession, forgiveness, and empathy can strengthen relationships.Whether you are married, dating, leading a family, or simply trying to grow emotionally and spiritually, this episode offers encouragement and practical tools to help you communicate with wisdom, peace, and Christ-centered love.If you’re struggling in your marriage or want to strengthen your relationship before problems grow, this episode is for you.👉 Subscribe for biblical marriage advice, relationship coaching, and real conversations that help couples stay and grow together.Looking for pre-marital or post-marital counseling? We’re SYMBIS-trained and Prepare/Enrich certified, here to support and strengthen your relationship.Schedule your **FREE 30-minute consultation** today:https://calendly.com/bettertwo2gether