What I Wish More Couples Knew...

The one thing I wish more couples understood is that arguments don’t come out of nowhere, and it’s rarely one person’s “fault.”A relationship by definition is two people coming together and creating the dynamic.We bring our baggage, our triggers, our unhealed wounds in relationships, and all of the stuff running in the background that shapes how we show up with other people.The number one thing that I have seen that diffuses most conflicts right off the bat is when both people in the relationship understand this idea of co-creation, which is what I call it, and when each person is able to take personal responsibility for their side of the street.This takes self awareness and also humbleness, to know that there is always something that you’re contributing to the dynamic that can be looked at and improved upon, especially when it comes to conflict.I am not talking about abusive relationships here, that is a much deeper topic and I work 1:1 with people who have those patterns so that they can heal.In my work, I talk a lot about the new paradigm of relationships - and this simply means bringing a greater level of awareness to how we show up in relationships so that we are not repeating the same mistakes that our parents made, or even that we’ve made in our past!Most people these days are becoming aware of things like relationship patterns, how our upbringing shapes the partners we attract, and why these things are so important! Huge keys for inner work become available when we start to get curious about our side of the street.So the first thing that can take you far if you’re in a relationship with someone is to take some time to reflect on the things that you butt heads about. Are there patterns on what you fight about? What triggers you the most in this relationship?And also, zoom out beyond that specific relationship and ask yourself what types of partners and people you tend to attract. What are the patterns that keep coming up in your relationships?These are the doorways into starting to work with relationships in a much more evolutionary way, where you can actually start to use relationships as a vehicle to heal, and to grow.Again, it can save you a lot of time and confusion to work with a professional who does this exact work.This is the work that I do with people 1:1 and it’s very powerful. This is the work that will change the whole game.And when both people know this and become aware of how it’s usually less about pointing the finger at how bad the other person is, and more about taking ownership of what’s coming up for you so that you can grow from it, the relationship changes from blaming and shaming the other person to truly working together as partners to make things better.--About me:My name is Leigh-Anne LoPinto, and I teach about the new paradigm of relationships. This includes healing the relationship between men + women, and using relationships as a vehicle to evolve.I help people break lifelong relationship patterns, heal insecure attachment and codependency, and build love on a healthy, stable foundation.Through a blend of psychology, breathwork, transformational coaching, energy work, and intuitive guidance, I support individuals in creating relationships that become a path of growth and awakening.For over 15 years, I have worked with people all over the world who are ready to stop repeating old cycles and step into relationships beyond their wildest dreams.Free Gifts: https://love-evolved.mykajabi.com/giftsBook an Intro Call: https://www.love-evolved.usInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/love.evolv.ed/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com