What if You're The Red Flag? And What Do You Do About It?

We've all been taught how to spot red flags in others—but what if we're the red flag? In this powerful episode, Dr. Zoe unpacks the uncomfortable but essential question: could your own behaviors, coping mechanisms, or unresolved trauma be playing a role in your relationship struggles? With compassion and clarity, she explores how complex shame and survival patterns might show up as self-sabotage, emotional unavailability, or codependency—and how recognizing these patterns is the first step toward healing. This isn't about blame. It's about brave introspection, self-compassion, and taking radical ownership of your growth. What You'll Learn: The subtle ways red-flag behaviors can manifest in everyday life How complex shame might be driving your relationship dynamics Why self-awareness is the most powerful relationship tool you have Practical steps to shift from reactivity to intentional connection Whether you're healing from a toxic relationship or trying to build healthier ones, this episode will challenge and empower you to look inward—and come out stronger on the other side. Resources & Mentions: Book: Stronger in the Difficult Places (coming soon!): pre-order now   Connect with me: Dr. Zoe Shaw on Instagram Dr. Zoe Shaw on Facebook Dr. Zoe Shaw Website