What is a healthy from a toxic expectation? This is the daily disturbance blood gas with Anthony Fungini, man. Expectations were like fine pottery, Brandon Sanderson said. The harder you held them, the more likely they were to crack.
Let's go to the definition of healthy, okay? Positive wholesome, well-being. All right, nothing wrong. Not infectious, that's health, that's healthy.
The pottery that cracked, that was held too tightly? Well, that's from eagerly expecting to forcefully demanding. Now that's toxic, poisonous, noxious, almost insidious. What is a healthy from a toxic expectation?
Number one, a healthy expectation. Number one has the ability of the provider in mind. The ability of the provider to deliver, willing, able, committed. People you can rely on, on those you need to follow up with.
Donald Miller, what did he say? When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are. So, expect not people to be perfect, but make sure you rely on people who are willing, able, and committed. Number two, a healthy expectation, expects results following a proper process.
Expecting results from a followed process, like a great marathon finish after a rigorous training and preparation program. This I've done 11 times. I've failed once because I didn't train enough. And I'm hoping to do a great finish in the next one, following the right process.
Number three, a healthy expectation acts fairly and justly as it pursues fulfillment. Expecting God to answer when your prayer is in accordance to his will and character. Come on, even as a dad, I'm not the father in heaven, but even as a father down here, I can tell you now what the answer will be from me, if one of my children asks that, between us, can you help me win against my sibling by changing the rules? But of course, me wanting to win against Solana, playing fairly in a game of monopoly deal tonight, that's acceptable, although I always lose.
Number four, what is a healthy expectation? A healthy expectation looks at people with humility. And hope, never giving up on people, expecting the people can still change for the better. Treat a man as he is, Stephen Covey said, and he will remain as he is.
Treat a man as he can and should be, and he will become as he can and should be. Also chambers add to this that I and I quote, have never met a person I could despair off or lose all hope for after discerning what lies in me apart from the grace of God. Number five, a healthy expectation takes a personal conviction and pursues it to fulfillment. Brian Tracy, positive expectations are the mark of the superior personality.
If you have one expectation, you truly believe in, and is worth fighting for, then that will be a healthy expectation. Number six, it helps the person grow and glow as he or she goes for it. Money cell, then I got married. After that she said, I'm happy, I'm done, we should live happily ever after.
That was the only expectation she had from getting married. And I had to encourage her. I said, huh, what about your talent? What about all the acting awards?
What about all the managing ability being in the industry? And what about the money that you and I have to aren't together, help me. And so she was unstuck. The expectation of her getting married and finally living happily ever after grew, right?
It expanded and today we continue to grow and glow by God's grace wherever we go. Romans 819 for the anxious longing of the creation waits eagerly for the revealing of the sons of God. That is that anxious longing, right? For the more and the better out there.
Number seven, it yearns and not manipulates. It longs and not demands. It wishes while whistling, not wallowing while waiting. That's healthy expectation, right?
H expects results following a proper process. E, A acts fairly and justly as it pursues fulfillment. L looks at people with humility and hope. T takes a personal conviction and pursues it to fulfillment.
H helps the person grow and glow. As he or she goes for it. And Y yearns and not manipulates, right? Longs and not demands.
H, E, A, L, T, H, Y. That's healthy.