What is 'it'? : listener question

If you get a chance, I’d love it if you could say more about something I hear in the first wholeness video. You said that’s when something has happened and we say ‘I’m ok with it now’ we aren’t. If there is still an ‘it’ we are not done.This feels really cool and important somehow but I can’t put my finger on it. So, for example, with sleep I have felt and said on numerous occasions that I’m ok with not sleeping and the issues it caused me BUT this is the same as saying I’m not ok with it 😂🙃I was still seeing it as a problem that I overcame. I think what your saying is that if ‘it’ is still seen as a ‘problem’ or even as a ‘thing’ then we are just on the flip side of the coin again.When it becomes ‘no thing’ it just isn’t there to be ok or not ok with….Hope that’s makes sense…probably not!