What Is the Shit?

"The shit is not just the loss itself—it's the lies, the silence, the guilt, and the pressure that come with it. You didn't create it, but you can name it. And once you name it, you can grieve it."  In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker breaks down what "the shit" actually means. Grief isn't just the pain of missing your person—it's all the lies, the silence, the pressure, and the guilt that come piled on top of the loss.  From the bad advice ("time heals") to the avoidance (people ducking you at the grocery store), Sharon calls it out. This is the part nobody warns you about, the weight that makes grief feel heavier than it already is. And until you name it, you can't begin to move through it.  What You'll Learn in This Episode  The real meaning behind "grieve that shit"  Why clichés and cultural rules about grief keep you stuck  How silence and avoidance from others add to the pain  The difference between grieving your person and grieving the shit around the loss  Why naming the shit is the first step toward healing  Homework for You  Print this out and work through it:  1. Write your personal list of "the shit" you've been carrying.  o   What lies have you been told?  o   What guilt do you wrestle with?  o   What moments still knock the wind out of you?  2. Say it out loud: "This is my pile of shit." Don't soften it. Don't excuse it. Just name it.  Resources + Next Steps  Download your free eBook: https://clickhereforhope.com/  Join Grief Study Hall – live support with Sharon every Tuesday at 1 PM CST. Sign up at Grief Study Hall