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EPISODE · Jul 23, 2026 · 57 MIN

What It Takes to Win an Avoidant Man's Heart | Brandon & Dana Wade

from I Wish You Knew · host Adam Lane Smith & Andrey Korikov

He built one of the most controversial dating sites in the world. He told every woman upfront on day one that he did not believe in marriage. And then he met Dana. And everything changed. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Brandon Wade, founder of Seeking.com, and his partner Dana to break down what it actually takes to win an avoidant man's heart. What you will learn in this video: 1- Why Brandon spent years believing love was a concept invented by poor people and what changed his mind  2- Why radical honesty on a dating profile attracted the right person faster than anything else  3- Why dating apps give you quantity but why quality requires something completely different  4- Why 65 percent of couples once met through family and friend networks and what the collapse of that has done to modern relationships  5- What women are actually looking for underneath the surface and why financial safety is not gold digging  6- Why men who pursue skill mastery and competence are automatically more attractive and how Brandon proved it  7- Why avoidant men build layers of ego and what the one thing is that finally brings those walls down  8- What secure attachment actually looks like inside a real relationship between two people who almost never found each other If you have ever wondered whether an avoidant man can actually change, this conversation is your answer. 👉 Join my Free Attachment Community - The Secure Circle. You get exclusive lives, videos, access to my team, and more! http://links.adamlanesmith.com/free-secure-circle  👉 Ready for more? Upgrade to Secure Circle Plus for the complete attachment program, including courses, live masterclasses, coach-led practicums, workshops, Q&As, a private community, and session archive. Join today: http://links.adamlanesmith.com/plus-secure-circle  💬 Ready to transform your attachment? Work directly with me & my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=7/23 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ - Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes:  https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=7/23 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=7/23

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