What Masculinity Is For — Not What It's Called

  Episode: #39 Jack Donovan on redefining the way we see masculinity today Who: Today's guest is Jack Donovan (@starttheworld), a leading figure on the topic of masculinity. From Jack's about page: "Jack Donovan is the author of The Way of Men, a candid and unorthodox theory on masculinity that has gained underground popularity worldwide... Donovan has been blogging, authoring, and speaking about masculinity and tribalism for over a decade. He resides in the Pacific Northwest and leads a chapter of the notorious Wolves of Vinland, an esoteric group of Germanic pagans." I think this introduction is self-explanatory! In this conversation, we delve into the concept of masculinity, why it shouldn't be stigmatized, and the importance of embarking on our own paths to become stronger and more masculine men.    Affiliate highlight: Before we get into that, a quick word about our affiliates. I've managed to build up some great relationships with some awesome companies. 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Where he thinks modern day men are going wrong in society and the factors that affect thier masculinity How can we recreate the old rituals that boys undertook to become men like the old civilisations do but do it in our easy lives Why do you need a tribe to truly become masculine and a man and how it needs to be set up/contain to succeed. Can we use sports etc to replace these missing rituals and tribes in our lives? Are the characteristics of what makes a good man the same across the world? What he thinks about the style of masculinity that is shipped by today's media? Can you grade masculinity? Are we masculine or not or shades of masculine more or less than the next man? What challenges could you set yourself to become a more masculine man and develop yourself? Why is there not a push for men to become more masculine in today's society?Why do some men hate on those who try to improve in their lives? How should today's men adapt to the differing roles of women and equality in the modern world Can you ever become too mascline? At what point does becoming more masculine cause problems? How does the role of the father play in how masculine a man is and how good a man he will be? How should we raise the next generation of men to help raise good men? How does he deal with those who dislike the masculinity message he is bringing out? How should those listening overcome jealousy, hate etc when they try to become a more masculine man and a better man? How can you tell if you are becoming a better man? What is the yard stick or criteria we can use to show improvements? The message those listening should take from this interview? Are there any unusual things about Jack that will blow your mind? How you can keep in touch with him? And so much more      Some things to reflect on  There are a lot of positives about striving to be a better man Masculinity is being softened in today's media and "made into a joke" "When you are marketing things, you want to be overly inclusive" - the way masculinity is portrayed in today's society is more about marketing than ideology Masculinity is what men percieve to each other as masculine, are the things we need from each other to survive through our evolutionary history - The parameters of masculinity never change, they are part of who we are in throughout time Find out about Jack Lemmon here - the author who's books helped him on his journey What you believe, comes true - it is a self-fufilling prophecy  The failing answer in life is waiting for approval for what you are wanting to do Your tribe needs to share the same values as yourself and be more than just about one thing like sports - there has to be a higher purpose involved in the tribe. "The people who control the media are not average people" "Men who don't know what masculinity is are more subject to be manipulated in terms of what tnhey need to be masculine" See the interview I did with Tanner Guzy here It is a good thing to have competition with other men, to take controlled risks and realise you won't break, that you won't die - physical things are very important People will talk down to you when you try to improve yourself as it brings other people's failures into sharper perspective and they don't want you to succeed - getting better should be about you and your own change "You don't need to be a dick to be a masculine man", you can be just as smart, as creative, as talented, as loving etc as you always are and get better and yet become more masculine You can't expect affirmation from those who aren't on the same mission as you - you need to focus out the hate and focus instead on those who get the message you are providing and on the same journey as you If you believe in something, you should measure your actions against and ensure you are meeting your beliefs, that you are being consistent in your beliefs   Connect with the Guest Visit his website here Like Jack on Instagram here Like Jack on Facebook here Subscribe to Jack on Youtube here Buy Jacks' great book 'The Way of Men' here (affiliate link) View the 'If' poem he mentions here by Rudyard Kipling His speech at the 21 Convention website - you will need to sign up for their free trial to view it    Subscribe to the podcast  If you enjoyed the podcast, please help me by posting a review on iTunes! 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