What Might Be Under the Perfectionism, Shame, and Self-Loathing with Amber Trejo

In today's episode, I’m talking to Amber Trejo, a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in complex trauma and attachment, about what might be under the perfectionism, shame, and self-loathing. Amber explains how complex trauma often forms when there was never a true baseline of safety growing up, how, while it can be painful to realize we might hurt our kids, the repair matters FAR more than perfection, and so much more.Healing from complex trauma and things like perfectionism, shame, and self-loathing doesn’t start with “being better,” it starts with awareness, curiosity, and support. Whether that’s therapy, learning, or simply beginning to ask yourself gentler questions, please know you are not broken, and you are NOT alone!In this episode, we cover:Amber’s journey into understanding & working with complex traumaWhat complex trauma (C-PTSD) is + how growing up without a baseline of safety impacts the nervous systemThe key difference between PTSD and complex traumaHow emotional neglect often goes unrecognized, even in childhoods that felt “good”Why shame is central to complex trauma + how it often shows upHow complex trauma affects relationships, conflict & nervous system capacityWhy repair matters more than perfection in parentingHow to support yourself + loved ones when navigating complex trauma Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/under-the-perfectionism Connect with Amber:Follow on Instagram @integrativetraumatherapistConnect on FacebookFollow on TikTokCheck out her websiteSend her an email at [email protected] Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at [email protected] & Links:You Can Heal Your Life by Louise HayJoin The DrawSchedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting