What the Architects of Taboo Can Teach Us About Consent, Intimacy, and Trust with The Kink Consultant Amanda James

Season 6, Episode 763: What the Architects of Taboo Can Teach Us About Consent, Intimacy, and Trust with the Kink Consultant Amanda Dames. Listen to an interview with The Kink Consultant: On Shame, Desire, and Honest Communication.Guest Bio:The Kink Consultant: On Shame, Desire, and Honest CommunicationAMANDA DAMES, aka The Kink Consultant, is a sexologist, Somatica® Certified Sex and Relationship Coach, podcast host, and former NYC Dominatrix specializing in kink, intimacy, and communication. Through coaching, education, media appearances, and her podcast The Kink Consultant, Amanda helps people explore desire without shame while making kink feel approachable, empowering, and rooted in consent, confidence, and connection. Known for her honest, playful, and accessible teaching style, Amanda has built an online audience of more than 300,000 followers across social media and has been featured in Cosmopolitan, HuffPost, Women’s Health, POPSUGAR, and Court TV for her expertise in kink and modern relationships. Her work focuses on helping individuals and couples communicate openly about fantasies, power dynamics, and emotional intimacy so they can create relationships that feel more authentic, exciting, and fulfilling both inside and outside the bedroom. MORE ONLINE: ⁠AmandaDames.com⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠Podcast⁠ Discussion Topics:Meeting Amanda Dames, The Kink ConsultantSex Education Ignores Female Pleasure and that needs to change, everyone on the planet has been gaslit by culture, society, education, and religionShame and Communication in Intimate RelationshipsSexual Health as Mental Health, we can't ignore sexual health because it's a component of mental healthCommunication is the Foundation of KinkOrigins and Evolution of Kinks and Fetishes, where do these come from?Sex Research Deserves Equal Funding and Attention for BOTH sexes and that has not been done well in the pastInstagram Censorship and Women's Health Content,, the social media platforms are unfairly guiding discussions on sexual health, favoring and allowing men's topics, but not women's. They need to stop treating actual body parts as taboo words, especially women's body parts. We need to quit the old Puritanical influence!Breaking Judgment to Build Better RelationshipsAnatomy Matters! Clitoral Sensitivity and Hood Anatomy Explained, we need real teaching and discussions on real anatomy, not hidden blackballed teaching on women’s anatomyBody Modification, the ramifications, and Personal AutonomyRisky Decisions and Living to Tell TalesWhere to Find Amanda and ResourcesPast episode clips, book blurb, FirmTech informationFrom the Podcast Host Ruan Willow:One of Ruan's fave brands of adult pleasure toys:Affiliate link Pearl Toys from Kiiroo: Get 10% OFF ENTIRE ORDER (min. purchase $69, no usage limits) with affiliate code RUANWILLOW10 on pleasure sex toys at https://www.kiiroo.com/ https://offers.feeliate.com/to92wTJhNeighborhood Sex Secrets novel: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/neighborhoodsexsecretsDiscreet cover and title for Neighborhood Secrets: Neighborhood Secrets Novel by Ruan WillowAffiliate link, collect your body's health and sexual health info with a wearable device for men from Firm Tech 15% OFF with affiliate code ruan15 ⁠⁠https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow⁠Copyright 2026 Pink Infinity Publishing. All Rights Reserved.Support the showNewsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow