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EPISODE · Apr 18, 2026 · 26 MIN

What to Do When a High Conflict Relationship Spirals Out of Control | Epi 144

from The Narcissism Decoder · host Dr. Anthony Mazzella

In this episode - part 2 of 3 - we get into what to do in the exact moment a conflict starts to spiral out of control. When things escalate fast—name-calling, defensiveness, shutting down—it can feel like you’ve already lost control of the interaction. We walk through how to catch that shift as it’s happening, understand what’s being triggered underneath it, and respond in a way that doesn’t make things worse. The focus isn’t on winning the argument, but on slowing the escalation and changing the pattern in real time.If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.  Want to go deeper? Join me in Office Hours — an open space where we explore psychoanalytic ideas together, answer your questions, and connect theory to real life experiences. Reserve your spot here  Next Meeting: Stay Tuned!  Contact me Directly with observations, questions or comments:  [email protected] You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder  Dr. Mazzella’s personal website: drmazzella.comDr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in narcissism, personality disorders, and relational dynamics.

In this episode - part 2 of 3 - we get into what to do in the exact moment a conflict starts to spiral out of control. When things escalate fast—name-calling, defensiveness, shutting down—it can feel like you’ve already lost control of the interaction. We walk through how to catch that shift as it’s happening, understand what’s being triggered underneath it, and respond in a way that doesn’t make things worse. The focus isn’t on winning the argument, but on slowing the escalation and changing...

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