What to do when what you did have in common is now outweighed by what you don't. This is the Daily Disturfist podcast with Anthony Fungini. Welcome back to our podcast. The Daily Disturfist is Anthony.
I'm out of town, not in my studio, not using my mic. It's gonna be a bit rough, spontaneous perhaps. A little less structured, but I hope just as authentic and helpful to you all. We are looking at family issues and that's precisely the question that we have today.
What to do when what you did have in common with family members is now outweighed by what you don't with those same members. Most couples have not had hundreds of arguments, Kate Hendrix said. They've had the same argument, hundreds of times. I remember when my dad asked me, I think I was about 11 or 12 years old, if we could go out on a date like we did when we watched a boxing movie sometime back.
I actually said, no. I actually said, can we do that next time then? I don't know what I was busy with, but I regret having said no to him. But to think of it now, the pain he must have felt, realizing that this young boy now had other priorities instead of going on a date with dad.
I remember apologizing to him when he was hospitalized for, I don't know what he on it now, but it showed me, revealed to us all how fragile he was, that my dad actually bled, right? You know, that realization. And I said, dad, I'm sorry, we can go out on a date again. Just tell me when.
Thank God he recovered. And I took those opportunities a little more seriously. But it's true, and I'm experiencing that even now as I speak, with my own kids. You know how it was when you were young, saying nightly prayers consistently with the kids?
Now that's seldom. I mean, we still do, but definitely not nightly, and not with all the kids. How it was going to, and coming from school, all together day after day. Now that's gone.
Not just because of the pandemic, but because they're all in online school, in different schools, by the way, too. I recall family triathlon days, iron kids, that, too, was a regular thing. We did it together. In fact, we had a theme, what would you call it, a battle cry.
We tried to write together. Well, that's long gone. When it happens, right? It hits you, and what you have in common, is now outweighed by what you don't.
Then I guess you appreciate the few things. What is left, and hopefully, the more foundational, fundamental, and essential common things in life. I'm thankful that Hannah introduced the one question that every member of the family had to answer over dinner, and she introduced us just a couple of months ago. Like, if there's one thing that you regret not having done, the past year, what would that be and why?
Very revealing, but also unifying, and meaningful, evenings with Hannah. We still do something together. The annual planning session that I still get to do, just after Christmas, where we each share of what we had gone through, the best of the previous year, and what we hope to accomplish, and what we yearn for in the coming year, and the opportunity to impact, contribute, and to input another sibling, or a parent, by giving their own opinions of each other. I guess what I'm learning over time is not so much what you share together, but what you together share about each other.
The fact that we appreciate Ella's uniqueness, as a designer, as a consultant, as a social media advisor. We watch, and eagerly anticipate on these series, and movies, and kumu appearances. So would Hannah, who's another endorser, her vlogs, she just finished a seven day, oh my God, daily vlog, and I caught everyone, by surprise, every day. But we welcomed it, Hannah has his way of making you feel, appreciated, and with a permission that she asks before her mindful of art, need for, and desire for privacy.
You can't say no, and altogether we also share, and appreciate Benjamin's songs, and more and more of his new songs that he belts out in whatever bathrooms available at home, when you least expect it. Of course, we all together share Solana's new business just the other week, her Solana's Baba Meltooth for 20 pesos per drink. It's not always what you share together as a whole, but what you together share about each other. As I shared earlier this week, we are in Baguio as a family.
One of those rare times we are all together here, and earlier this day, it was a round of golf with my two sons, and they both beat me to it, and humbled me, which is okay. I do anything to lift this, but it's up. Tomorrow it's in bike ride, just five hours from now with a mayor who does this every Sunday, and this morning, doesn't happen too often, but when you can, make those special trips so that you can again spend those special times as a family. I don't know what's said it, but I think this is a very good to end today's podcast, Family.
Like Branches and a Tree, we all grow in different directions, zero routes remain as one.