EPISODE · Mar 19, 2026 · 56 MIN
What To Do When You Still Love Each Other But Feel Miles Apart
from Life in Transition Podcast · host Art Blanchford
Join Our Community Here: https://www.lifeintransition.online/ We are really excited to have a new sponsor — Verity Wealth Partners. Please check them out at http://verity.nm.com/lifeintransition About The Show: The Life in Transition, hosted by Art Blanchford focuses on making the most of the changes we’re given every week. Art has been through hundreds of transitions in his life. Many have been difficult, but all have led to a depth and richness he could never have imagined. On the podcast Art explores how to create more love and joy in life, no matter what transitions we go through. Art is married to his lifelong partner, a proud father of three and a long-time adventurer and global business executive. He is the founder and leader of the Midlife Transition Mastery Community. Learn more about the MLTM Community here: www.lifeintransition.online. Resources: Life in Transition: https://lifeintransitionpodcast.com/ Join Our Community: https://www.lifeintransition.online/ My new book PURPOSEFUL LIVING is out now. Order it now: https://www.amazon.com/PURPOSEFUL-LIVING-Wisdom-Coming-Complex/dp/1963913922 Our Sponsor: Verity Partners. Please check them out at http://verity.nm.com/lifeintransition The views and opinions expressed on the Life In Transition podcast are solely those of the author and guests and should not be attributed to any other individual or entity. This podcast is an independent production of Life In Transition Podcast, and the podcast production is an original work of the author. All rights of ownership and reproduction are retained. Copyright 2026. 00:00 – The Biggest Learning Was Healing 00:16 – Welcome To The Life And Transition Podcast 01:43 – Many Divorced People Still Love Their Ex-Spouses 03:23 – Bruce Chalmer's Career Transition From Statistician To Therapist 04:07 – Transition Was Driven By Personal Crisis 06:17 – 30 Years In Private Practice 07:36 – Distinguishing Career Versus Calling 10:07 – Defining Faith 12:15 – Calling Brings Uplifting Energy And Prevents Burnout 14:31 – Men Have A Hard Time With Therapy 21:10 – The Biggest Learning Was That You Can Feel Bad And Heal 22:20 – Healing Is Possible Even In Great Pain 24:09 – Faith Comes With Humility 25:14 – Intellectual Emotional Humility 26:19 – Growth Mindset Versus Fixed Mindset 30:00 – Curiosity And Growth Mindset Bring Understanding 31:54 – Avoiding Intimacy For The Sake Of Stability 32:00 – Intimacy As "Into Me See" 34:47 – Intimate Conversation Reveals Unexpected Things 38:54 – Aging Is Not Optional, But Growth Is 41:29 – Faith Is The Key To Healing 44:15 – The Small Act Of Will To Believe Healing Is Possible 48:17 – Presence Is The Space Of Healing 48:36 – Narrative Therapy 50:27 – Connect With Bruce Chalmer At BruceChalmer.com 50:40 – Video Course: The Passion Paradox #lifeintransition #midlife #midlifegrowth #secondhalfoflife #menspsychology #mensdevelopment #meaningfullife #personaltransformation #purposedrivenlife #reinventyourlife
What this episode covers
“Can a relationship heal even after both people feel completely broken?” What happens when two people still love each other but feel miles apart? Dr. Bruce Chalmer has spent more than 30 years helping couples navigate that exact moment. In this conversation with Art, he explains why many relationships don’t fail because of a lack of love, but because partners lose faith that healing is possible. And once that belief disappears, even small conflicts can start to feel permanent. Bruce shares what he has learned from decades of working with couples who arrive in therapy feeling desperate, hurt, and convinced the relationship is beyond repair. He explains why emotional pain can distort the story partners tell about each other, how resentment quietly grows when difficult conversations are avoided, and why rebuilding a relationship often begins with something surprisingly simple, restoring faith that change is possible. This conversation explores the deeper mechanics of healing in relationships. Bruce describes how people can move from blame to curiosity, how painful transitions can become turning points rather than endings, and why couples who are willing to stay present through discomfort often rediscover the connection they thought was lost. Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist, couples therapist, and former statistician who has spent more than three decades helping partners repair relationships that feel stuck, distant, or broken. He is the author of several books on intimacy and conflict, including It’s Not About Communication. Through his clinical work, writing, and teaching, Bruce helps couples move beyond blame and rediscover the possibility of healing, connection, and lasting partnership.
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