What to Do When You've Been Ghosted by a Friend

When a close friend disappears without a word, the world rarely treats it as a loss. Discover why that grief is allowed, and how David and Jesus both knew the sting of being abandoned by a friend.One of the more disorienting hurts in life is when someone who was close to you disappears. No explanation, no conversation. They just stopped responding, and now weeks or months have gone by. Because there was no ending and no reason given, your mind goes to work trying to supply one. You run back through your memory looking for what you did wrong, and a lot of the time you never find the answer. What makes it worse is that hardly anyone treats it as a loss. When someone dies, people bring meals and gather around. When a friend quietly walks out of your life, you're expected to shrug and move on.This episode opens with Diana, who met Lindsay at UCLA and became inseparable with her for years. Then Lindsay moved away for a banking job, the calls started going unanswered, and one message became a long stretch of nothing. Diana kept making excuses for her friend until she finally admitted the truth: she'd been dropped, and no one was ever going to explain it.Scripture speaks straight to that wound. In Psalm 55:12-14, King David wrote, "For it is not an enemy who reproaches me; then I could bear it... But it was you, a man my equal, my companion and my acquaintance. We took sweet counsel together." David could have handled an attack from an enemy. What cut him down was that the betrayal came from a close friend, someone he had prayed with and walked into worship beside. The closeness is what made the wound so deep, and David brought that grief straight to God instead of burying it.You can do the same. You don't have to have it resolved first or understand why they left. And the God you bring it to knows the sting from the inside. On the night He was betrayed, one of Jesus' own friends handed Him over and the rest scattered. So when you tell God about the friend who ghosted you, you're bringing it to the one Person who understands completely and who will never do that to you. People may disappear without a word. God stays. Bart shares his own lost friendship, one that faded after a move and was never explained. Diana found her healing the same way: months later a therapist gave it a name, disenfranchised grief, and once it had a name she let herself grieve it as the loss it was.BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:Why being ghosted by a friend is a loss that deserves grief, even when no one else treats it that wayWhat Psalm 55:12-14 shows about David grieving betrayal by a close friendA simple step for naming your loss and bringing it to GodWhen a friend disappears without a word, that grief counts. Bring it to the God who was abandoned Himself, name it for the loss it was, and let yourself grieve.Share This Episode:https://www.dailydevotionsforbusylives.com/314Need Prayer? Leave me a voicemail:https://www.dailydevotionsforbusylives.com/voicemailWant to keep these devotions coming? Please consider supporting this podcast.https://www.dailydevotionsforbusylives.com/support/Rate and Reviewhttps://www.dailydevotionsforbusylives.com/reviews/new/Connect with BartFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/dailydevotionsforbusylivesWebsite: https://www.dailydevotionsforbusylives.comFeeling spiritually drained? Start here. Download your free copy of my eBook Making Time for Jesus here: https://www.dailydevotionsforbusylives.com/subscribe.