What We Think Others Think

The topic came up in another thread about worrying too much about what others think of us ... I have a tendancy to take a lot of what people say to me, personal. ... Can anyone give me some tips from a buddhist or zen-perspective, how to stop myself from constantly being so busy with what other people think of me (or, better put: what I think that other people think of me) Link to thread Well, ultimately there is no "you" there, nor "others" ... so no need for you to worry what others think! However, even before one gets to such an ultimate Truth ... there's much Wisdom that Shikantaza Practice can offer to free us from opinions, from self judgments, imaginings and the like. Let them go, let them drift from mind! What's more ... you are a jewel, just as you are! Not a thing to change! (which doesn't mean, however, that you don't have some flaws, my friend, in need of change! ) Gassho, Jundo Visit the Forum for this topic!