“What You Want Most Is What You Give Away” - with Pastor Benjamin Lundquist

In Part Two of this powerful conversation, Perrine welcomes back Pastor Benjamin Lundquist for a life changing discussion on identity, healing, relationships and the hidden questions that quietly shape our lives.After an unforgettable conversation over dinner in London, Perrine knew this framework needed its own episode. In this conversation, Pastor Ben unpacks the Seven Primal Questions — a deeply clarifying tool that helps reveal what is happening beneath the surface of our behaviours, reactions, fears and relationships.At the heart of it all is one truth: there is always something underneath the thing.Together, Perrine and Pastor Ben explore:• the Seven Primal Questions and what they reveal about the human experience• how early life experiences shape the questions we carry into adulthood• why so many people live in confusion, burnout and emotional chaos without realising why• the difference between thriving and scrambling• how your deepest question can become your greatest superpower• why what you want most is often what you are called to give away• how this framework can radically transform relationships, marriage and leadership• why understanding yourself is not the end goal — serving others better is• how to identify the thing underneath the thing• what it means to move from constant noes into the yes of Jesus• why avoiding your fear can keep you from your calling• how clarity brings responsibility• practical next steps for leading yourself well in 2026Pastor Ben also shares how this framework has impacted his own marriage, coaching and leadership, and why it has brought so much clarity not only to him, but to thousands of people he has worked with.This episode is full of wisdom, practical insight and powerful reminders that you are not powerless, you are powerful in Jesus. And when you begin to understand the questions underneath your life, you can stop reacting from confusion and start responding with intention.If you have ever wondered why certain situations trigger you, why certain relationships feel especially hard, or why you keep circling the same emotional patterns, this episode will help you make sense of it.As Pastor Ben says, “What you want most is what you give away.”⁠⁠⁠Produced by ⁠⁠Pineapple Audio Production⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow the journey on Instagram at ⁠⁠@peaceandpurposewithp⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠